Talking dirty can be… weird. It can be confusing and it can even seem a little silly sometimes. But it doesn’t have to be intimidating. Dirty talk isn’t exclusively triple X rated conversations. It can just be telling your partner what you like in a fun, flirty way. Thinking about it that way doesn’t make it seem so scary, right? There’s nothing wrong with being vocal about what you like and what feels good. In fact, a little dirty talk can be a total turn on, both for you and your partner.
But if you’ve never done it before and you’re feeling a little shy, the big question on your mind is probably how to talk dirty. Take it from someone who won the accolade Most Shy in high school – talking dirty can be seriously nerve-wracking at first. The good news? I have a few tips on how you can start that will make the process as painless as possible. Check these out and keep them in mind the next time you’re in the middle of a hookup sesh. Who knows? A little mid-hook up sexy convo could totally be your thing!
Practice Makes Perfect
If you're super nervous, try practicing your dirty talk in front of a mirror by yourself before you actually do it. You might feel really stupid and silly talking dirty alone in your room while staring at yourself, but who cares? Hearing yourself say the words out loud a few times will make you more comfortable and it will help you realize what you really want to say during the deed.
Hand Out Some Compliments
Start off easy by simply complimenting your guy. Tell him how hot you think he is or how sexy his arms look. (Scientific fact: Guys love compliments on their arms. Love 'em). It doesn't really matter what it is you're complimenting him on - everyone loves hearing good things about themselves, especially when they're naked.
Ask Him What He Likes
Before you work up the nerve to tell him exactly what to do to you, have him start by asking him what he wants. It's a super simple way to kick off the convo. Bonus? You'll get some tips on how to make the hookup even better.
Tell Him What You Like
A huge part of dirty talk is telling your partner exactly what you like and what you want him to do to you. Don't feel awkward about this or worry that you're hurting his pride. The best part about this is that not only are you making things exciting, but you're really helping yourself out.
Realize You Don't Have To Sound Like A Porn Star
If you've ever watched a porno, you've probably set the bar for dirty talk pretty high. But don't sweat it. That stuff is all fantasy and you're real life. You don't need to get super explicit with him. Simple phrases like, "That feels so good" totally work.
Only Say What Makes You Feel Comfortable
On the same note, you also shouldn't say things you're not comfortable with. Don't say what you think he wants to hear - say what you want to say. Plain and simple.
Slow and Steady Wins The Race
Sometimes, talking quietly and more slowly is more intimate and sexy than being super loud. And whispering can feel a lot more normal during a hook up than your speaking voice.
Remember: Dirty Talk Is Not Necessary
Not feeling any of these tips? Don't worry about it. Dirty talk is not a mandatory part of hooking up. If you're not comfortable with it, don't. do it A make out sesh is best when you're feeling comfortable and confident, so you should never push yourself to do things you don't want to do. Ever.
Do you ever get nervous about talking dirty? Which of these tips is most helpful to you? What advice would you give girls that we didn’t cover? Tell us in the comments!