I never thought I would be taking sex advice from Taylor Swift, but I learned something really important from her today. Obviously Taylor has dated a lot of guys. Four albums worth to be exact. Homegirl falls in and out of love faster than I eat an entire pack or Oreos, which is like really fast.
Since her very public breakup with her very public boyfriend, Harry Styles, everyone’s been trying to figure out why it ended. Well, one insider is saying Harry ended it because Taylor’s a prude. To sum it up, Harry apparently finds the popstar “sexually uninteresting.”
My favorite part: “What she doesn’t get is that the guys keep dumping her because she’s being a prude.”
I have to sound off here. I’m not Taylor’s biggest fan in the world, but after reading this article I’m pretty ticked.
A person’s sex life is nobody’s business, celebrity or not. Taylor can have sex or not have sex with all of her boyfriends, and it shouldn’t matter. We get upset about slut-shaming all the time, but we should be getting upset about prude-shaming too, which is exactly what’s happening here.
It seems us girls can’t win either way. If we have sex with a number of people, we’re sluts. If we don’t have sex with anyone, we’re prudes. Where does it end?
If you are comfortable with the choices you’re making in your sex life, that’s all that matters. You are your own judge here, not anyone else. If you want to have sex, great (be safe!). If you don’t want to have sex, great. It’s up to you, and you should never let someone–your boyfriend, your friends or even Harry Styles–dictate how to handle your life.
If you’re with a guy and you feel pressured, speak up. You’re allowed to say no to anything you don’t want to do. It doesn’t make you a prude to say no.
Ms. Norbury in Mean Girls really has the best advice. And you know what? You all have got to stop calling each other prudes. It just makes it okay for guys to call you prudes.
How do you feel about people calling Taylor Swift a prude? Have you ever been called prude? How did you handle it? Tell me in the comments!