10 Reasons I’m Glad My Ex Is Happy

Seeing him with someone else isn't so bad Source Shutterstock

Seeing him with someone else isn’t so bad Source Shutterstock

I dated this guy for about three years in college, and we had a pretty nasty breakup. We both moved on but didn’t speak for a very long time.

Well I heard from him recently. He said he still thought about me all the time, but he’s been channeling everything that went wrong into making his new relationship work. I felt like he was checking in to see if I was miserable because he was finally happy with someone else.

I didn’t want the conversation to carry on. So when he was going on about his newfound love, I said I was glad that he was happy and I truly hoped things work out for them. I meant it, but he seemed surprised.

It can be really difficult to say you’re happy for your ex, but here are ten reasons why I really am.

There are some exes that I don’t like to hear from ever, but it’s really nice to have those that still care about how you are. I’m not going to go hang out with this one in my spare time or anything. It’s comforting to know that we don’t hate each other like we did right after our breakup.

It takes a while to get to the point where you can be happy about your ex being with someone else. Or just being in general.  Most of the time it has to do with you being happy with yourself.

Is your ex dating someone new? How do you feel about it? Are there any exes that you’re truly happy for? Tell me in the comments!

This girl isn’t so happy with her ex, so she gets revenge instead!

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  • Petros Peregrinus

    I disagree with this article. I would not feel “happy” for them. I would prefer to feel sorry for them (now I did not say feel bitter or revengeful). Why sorry? Because if you perceive yourself to be the best thing for the person and the person breaks up with you then you should see them as losing out on the best person for their life and it is their loss. Happiness for an Ex has the potential to rub salt into wounds.

    I would also learn from this breakup and then use this as a form of motivation to motivate me to be much more successful than my Ex and then when they see I have become much more successful than them I can then put that in front of them making them to regret having ever broken up with me in the first place. By that time I would be in charge of the situation and I can determine what next to do in regards to them-which for my part would be to openly show them that you are bypassing them and completely ignoring who they are. This is not done out of hate or malice but having an attitude showing them that “I am not a victim any more” and that “I can boldly stand on my own courageously, fearlessly and without them in my life if needs be.”

    To be happy for your Ex is to compromise with your ability to courageously stand up against the foolishness from your Ex in the past by saying “NO, I will not accept this.”

    To repeat use what your Ex did to you as a form motivation for your own personal success to show them that you can become more successful than them and that you will not be seen again in an average way as to how they (your Ex) have seen you. Instead you will show them that you can be better than them so that they will regret losing you. Eventually you can show them that you never needed them in your life anyway to reach where you have indeed reached successfully now

  • Petros Peregrinus

    I am sorry but I cannot accept everything said in this article. I would not feel “happy” for them. I would prefer to feel sorry for them (now I did not say feel bitter or revengeful). Why sorry? Because if you perceive yourself to be the best thing for the person and the person breaks up with you then you should see them as losing out on the best person for their life and it is their loss. Happiness for an Ex has the potential to rub salt into wounds.

    I would also learn from this breakup and then use this as a form of motivation to motivate me to be much more successful than my Ex and then when they see I have become much more successful than them I can then put that it in front of them making them to regret having ever broken up with me in the first place. By that time I would be in charge of the situation and I can determine what next to do in regards to them-which for my part would be to openly show them that you are bypassing them and completely ignoring who they are. This is not done out of hate or malice but having an attitude showing them that I am not a victim any more and that I can boldly stand on my own courageously, fearlessly and without them in my life if needs be

  • PhatKryptonian13

    I wouldn’t say I’m happy for my ex or I am happy…but I don’t care. I don’t hate her, I just think we had our time and that was that.

  • Anon

    Thanks for the article. I took the break up of my relationship really badly. It was long distance for one and to frustrate matters more I started going through a kind of renaissance over the last year- going back to education, redirecting my life, taking responsibility for my past mistakes in work and life and basically starting all over again. While he tried to support me and I too supported him as best I could(he has a medical condition called cystic fibrosis), we did not make it.
    I was gutted because we spoke about being together forever and all that.
    The breakup went back and forth and eventually he said that I needed to move on- strange thing to say because we had both been hanging on but then he said he just met someone randomly and that they were in love. He had been telling me that we should just give it time and that when I finished my education etc., and he got his business further successful that we could be together again. He also stressed that he had little to offer anyone. Then back to today and he is very happy with his new love to quote him.
    Why do men do this?
    Anyway your article rang true because he was unsuited to me in many ways. He is a lot colder than I am and he is far more conservative and less cultured.
    I guess I still love him but like you, I am glad he is happy I guess.

    • Petros Peregrinus

      Men who do this are losers. I am a man and so I speak that these men who do this are losers. Then again some women ask for their own trouble by choosing a “certain” type of man such as based on race or looks, etc. rather than expanding their mental field by choosing someone differently who can greatly add value to them.

      However to be “happy” for your Ex is to compromise with your ability to courageously stand by not standing up against the foolishness from your EX- in the past by saying “NO, I will not accept this.”

      One must use what their Ex did to them as a form motivation for their own personal success to show their Ex- that they can become more successful than their Ex and that they will be not seen in an average light as to how they were previously seen by their Ex. Instead show your Ex that you can be better than them so that they will regret losing you so that eventually you can show them that you never needed them in your life anyway to reach where you have indeed reached successfully now.

  • krissty

    Well,probably ..I would feel happy for him mean while hard to accept..but can’t force a person to love someone they don’t love,ofcourse I would the hurt but it’s the only way to make things right, coz you know sometimes love isn’t fair..but there would be purpose in every situation you may take..but it’s ok.for me coz I know their could be someone better that is prepared for me.