By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 09 Jan 2013 21:42:34 +0000

Just wanted to say that, if you do all of these things listed, and your friend is still neglecting you/being pushy or weird with you for whatever reason, then she isn’t worth it. I told my (two) old best friends that I was sick of them going off doing things without me, not even mentioning that they were busy that night-I literally only found out each time by them posting on facebook something like “Oh when *friend1* does such-and-such”. It annoyed me so much, so I told them, and they were both like “oh yeah, we’ll tell you next time, maybe you can come with us. We just didn’t think you liked it, or you’re busy” (Hello? I’m not busy ALL the time, you just never ask me anyway!) Anyway after that, there was no difference in anything, so I just left it for a bit. We left school (end of the school year, we were all going off to English College/SixthForm [last 2 years of high school?]) and we still talked over facebook like everyday and met up about twice. Then September came, and I decided to go to a different college than Friends 1 & 2… I saw their posts on facebook all the time, and we hardly talked anymore. So I messaged each of them, asking how college was and telling them we need to all make more of an effort to keep in touch. Well that didn’t last long at all-a couple of weeks and they hadn’t bothered. So I messaged them again, asking how college was and stuff, telling them we should go to the mall some time like we’d used to. We decided on a date, and that was the end of it-only a day we were gonna go. I was gonna message them again asking what time we should meet and stuff, but decided that if they weren’t making the effort to even talk to me then why should I make the effort to try and organise some time to meet up? I just left it and the next thing we know it’s time to go and get our GCSE certificates from our old school-it was scary enough thinking I was gonna see everyone again and stuff after not seeing them for over half a year, but I was quite excited to see friends 1&2 again. Got there on the night, and they were there, like I knew they would be (we aren’t exactly rebels haha), but I didn’t get to see them much since we were alphabetically split up, they’re both in the top half and I’m in the bottom half. So I literally saw them once-didn’t even say anything… I was talking to another friend, but they’re all friends anyway so… Yeah, we walked past them in the corridor and slowed down a bit as we passed them, it was literally a slight look of recognition from them and a little nod/smile/hi when I said hi to them… Felt pretty awkward.
We didn’t talk after that. Until one day, Friend 1, probably the bitchier of the two, messaged me. This is what it said: “A little bird told me you were stuck to a guys face in Gateshead interchange (a bus station). Is this true?” Well. That was it, it pushed me over the edge-this “best friend” had known me since I was 4. We literally met in Nursery-so she’d known me for 12 years, and still thought I’d do this. It just isn’t me-why would I snog somebody’s face off in the middle of a dirty old bus station! When I’m not in a relationship or anything! It annoyed me so much. So I replied, explaining that it wasn’t be, simply because I know if I didn’t then it would be gossiped around-and apparently Friend2′s cousin was the “little birdy” This person has seen me like, twice. And not recently either. So that annoyed me too. And then that was it-no more messages for like 3 weeks, until I send them both a message just after Christmas confronting them again. It was quite an open message-they could’ve easily said that they’ll try to keep in touch more and such, but they didn’t, they just went “huh, she doesn’t want to be friends anymore, okay then i’m fine with that”. Friend1 even said how *I* wasn’t making the effort- “it takes two to make a conversation”. So I told her to scroll up the messages and see who was starting them every time-oh yeah, me.
I told them not to worry, they won’t be hearing from me in the new year. And they haven’t. Yes, it still hurts to see them put posts on facebook of them together and I do miss them. I miss them alot. If they see that, then great, maybe now they’ll understand how I feel about it. But yeah, just don’t worry gurls-if they’re true friends, they’ll stick by you forever. <3

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