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KaylaMay said:
My boyfriend is bisexual. Can someone help me? Today, my boyfriend told me he has had sex with a guy… but a couple of days ago he told me he was a virgin. I’m getting really uncomfortable. What should I do?
How would you deal if your boyfriend told you he was bisexual? Do you think it’s a big deal or it shouldn’t matter? What advice would you give this girl?
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This guy is obviously confused. Sit him down, and have a heart to heart, and get your facts straight. (No pun intended) Ask him how long he’s known, and why he slept with this guy, when it was etc. It’s going to be awkward but you need to know if you really want to be with him.
I know it must seem weird for you, and unexpected, especially if you don’t know that many other gay/lesbian/bi people. But the fact is, it’s really not. He obviously felt uncomfortable telling you in the beginning, because he was unsure of how you would react; now, though, he’s confided in you, which means he must trust you! That’s a good thing!!
He’s going out with you now- not anyone else, male or female. You’re the person who’s important to him right now and that’s what matters. Don’t make a big deal out if it; the best thing you can do it shrug it off and say ‘okay’
Its not a big deal if your boyfriend is bisexual. It the same way if the girlfriend is bisexual, as long as he’s taking care of his business and using condoms with his sex partner(s) then it shouldn’t be a big deal. But also if its making you uncomfortable then you might want to sit down and have a serious conversation and ask him like “Look I know you’re bisexual and it ok to be that, but if we’re going to be together then it just you and me not me you and some guy/girl you met at the club” and if after the conversation your still uncomfortable then you shouldn’t be dating him of you can’t handle his sexuality. Its a trust thing.
Unless you’re knowingly in a polyamorous relationship, I’d be more concerned that your boyfriend seems to have had sex with someone the day after he told you he was a virgin…
As for bisexuality, it doesn’t matter. It’s just another category of people to be attracted to. Although some bisexual people do lean more toward one sex than the other, ‘bisexual’ is not code for ‘secretly gay and will leave you for all the dudes’.
Both of you need to sit down and have a talk about his sexuality. If he has had sex with someone else, you need to figure out if your okay with that and have him get tested before getting involved with him. Know that just because he is bi, that doesn’t mean he will be all over everybody. Just tell him how you feel and if it’s meant to be it will all work out (:
My boyfriend is bi too. He told me a few months ago and I kind of freaked out about it a lot because I had to find out from someone else. I think its great that he trusted you enough tto tell you. He may have just been worried that you’d reject him the way my boyfriend was. I think you two should definately talk out the fact that he loed about being a virgin, but if ou can eventually forgive him for that, I think you should definately stay with him. And try not to make him uncomfortable about it. I still regret the way I acted when my bf confessed to me. It didn’t change our relationship at all though. In fact, I think it made us stronger. Good luck gurl. I feel for you.
I don’t even think the issue here is about the boyfriend being bisexual. But on the point of bisexuality, it’s someone else’s business, in my opinion. If you’re gay, you’re gay. You’re straight? You’re straight. Teeter-totter in between? That’s fine too. I think people should live how they choose too.
But could I date someone who was bisexual? Sure, why not. If I date them and end up loving them and so on after that, what does it matter?
But everyone is different and if this girl is uncomfortable with it, she’s not married, she can choose to go whenever she wants.
I think the real issue though, is how he went from virgin to not in a couple of days. If he had sex with a guy and didn’t admit it before, I think that means he was ashamed and maybe he’s not too sure on his sexuality right now. He’s still in the teeter-totter stages, I think. So maybe this girl should step back a few paces until he figures it out?