I Almost Got Raped

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I was alone and really freaked out. | Source: Shutterstock

It wasn’t a dark and stormy night . . . It was a beautiful summer night, and a boy that my parents totally loved finally convinced me to go out with him. My parents saw me as a rich guy’s girl, and that’s exactly what he was—a rich guy who would make my parents happy. Did you get the key phrase – my parents? I didn’t even like this guy. I thought he was sleazy and generally creepy. But I still got in the car, heading for a party at a lakeside house owned by one of his friends.

When we showed up, there was no party … just a key to an empty place with a big bed. Furious and scared, I asked my “date” to take me home. He laughed and said I was free to leave, but he wasn’t going to take me. I knew I had to get out of there, so I walked deserted blocks until my high heels hurt so much I was walking barefoot. Suddenly, a car pulled up.

“Hey!” a voice called. “Where you headed, honey?” I thought I was dead for sure. But it was a cabbie, and he turned out to have a daughter my age and a heart of gold. I paid him all I had–$18 – for what was certainly a $180 cab ride 50 miles to home.

That day, I got a lesson that money can’t buy. We love the funny phrase “TMI.” When someone treats us to the epic tale of their last breakup, blackout night, or their boyfriends’ bathroom habits we say, “Too much information!”

But really, there is no such thing as “too much information,” especially if it’s good information, information that comes from your gut. Most things that have turned out awful for me in my life (including going on that horror show date) were things I did even though I knew they weren’t worth it or were just plain wrong. Most of the time, I caved in to pressure. I trusted other people more than I trusted myself.

That guy? I knew that even if he really liked me, he was also really spoiled, and used to having anything he wanted. That time, “anything he wanted” was me.

I know I’m not to blame for ending up in that situation. Nobody should try to take advantage of someone like that. And it’s definitely never a girl’s fault if she does get raped (just because you agree to go out doesn’t mean you’re going to put out, obviously!). But since there are some major creeps out there, it does always pay to follow your gut.

The point is that “too much information” could have saved me a whole lot of time and a whole lot of pain that night. It could have saved me from being in a super dangerous situation. Now I try to listen a little harder to information from the wisest person I know when it comes to me – myself.

Is there a time when you wish you’d trusted your gut? Tell us about it in the comments.

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  • Johnny Boy

    At least you didn’t have any bomb threats or other nastiness like this guy:

    http://blogs.davelozinski.com/datingandrelationships/dating-women-and-dating-games-part-09

  • contrastandcompare

    As someone who has been raped… He didn’t try and rape you. He’s a sleezy fuck yes, but he didn’t force himself on you. This is infuriating to me and I know it shouldn’t be but it still is. Regardless, I’m so so so so happy you didn’t have to go through that. Keep safe!

  • Peace, hope and charity

    I agree with the persons above, if he didn’t force himself on you and he let you leave without trying to keep you there, that is not being nearly raped….. Being NEARLY RAPED is keeping you ther against you’re will and forcing himself on you……

  • Lentil soup

    This dude sounds like a creep, yes, but he didn’t force himself on you, and allowed you to leave. How did he almost rape you?

    • mayra

      i agree with you Lentil soup

  • Nicolina

    Wow! I’m so glad that you got out of that horrible situation. God bless you! :)

  • Maria

    Oh my god! This is why I don’t think parents should be so nosy in their kid’s lives, nearly got you raped! I would so rub that in my parents’ faces!

  • RisingMavin

    YES! I say to always go with your gut. I have done stupid things for not trusting my own instinct… Now I’m older, wiser and have a mind of my own! :-)