My Date With A “Nice Guy” Ended In Disaster!

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This “nice guy” turned an okay night into a bad date when he went overboard with texting! | Source: Shutterstock

My best guy friend Joe (I changed his name as to not embarrass him) had a pretty hot brother, Jim (I changed his name too) who seemed like a nice guy. I’d seen pictures of him and Joe mentioned him a lot, but I’d never met him until we got together with Joe and his girlfriend to watch a movie and grab a pizza. I didn’t think it was a date because, well, he never asked me out–we’d never even met–we just happened to be in the same place at the same time.

Thing is, he totally thought we were on a date. He put his arm around me during the movie, which was a little weird, but not gropey or gross, so I didn’t make a big deal out of it. (I did mention he was hot, right?) Afterward we grabbed food together–all four of us–and then Jim and I exchanged numbers. He seemed cool and we had a few things in common, so I figured it wouldn’t hurt to see where it led. I figured anyone related to Joe, who was a legit nice guy–he’s one of my best friends in the world–was probably cool.

I headed home after that, a roughly 20 minute drive, because I was meeting my bestie for a late dessert date.

Here’s where it gets horrifying. When I pulled up to my friend’s house and got out my phone to let her know I was there, I had about 27 text messages. They were all from Jim.

The first messages were pretty sweet: “You’re so pretty!” “You’re really funny too.” “I liked your Chucks.” “I’d love to hang out again.” Aw, cute! Right? Well, so far.

Then they got paranoid. See, he went from a nice guy to a “nice guy.”

“Is this even the right number?” “Joe said this is really your number, so you must be ignoring me.” “What the Hell is your problem? I thought we hit it off.” “Did you block me from Facebook?” (I didn’t block him–I hadn’t been able to accept his friend request, because, you know, I was driving.)

Then they got nasty.

“I bet you’re one of the girls who likes guys who treat her like s***.” “That’s what I get for being a nice guy. I hope you’re happy with your life.” “Don’t crash into a pole or anything, b****.”

Thankfully, I didn’t crash into a pole, because I was paying attention to the road and not my cell phone while I was driving. When I did accept his friend request on FB, I saw that he also posted about half a dozen statuses like this: “That’s what I get when I put my heart on the line.” “Love is such bulls***.” “No one wants a nice guy anymore, f*** it.”

Remember what I said about “nice guys” a while ago? I stand by my theory that they’re actually not all that nice. In fact, someone of them are flat out crazy. And maybe that’s why no one wants “nice guys” anymore!

Have you ever had a bad date? Has a guy ever gone crazy after one date with you? What would you do if you got texts like that after one date with a guy? Have you ever had a nice guy turn into a “nice guy?” Tell us in the comments!

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  • Dora

    I’d be pleased if a guy actually texted me let alone sent me 27 messages! Yeah they were paranoid but she should of replied explaining she was driving- I know a few people like that who are genuinely lovely people but just suffer from paranoia. It’s a disorder not their fault, don’t judge too quickly in future.

    • Kim

      I feel so sorry for you that you can’t recognize stalker/abusive behavior or worse that you think it’s cute or romantic. She was only driving 20 minutes and he started acting crazy! She should not have to check her phone every 2 seconds and let him know what she’s doing every minute of the day! And there is a huge difference between a paranoia disorder and intense jealousy. And yes people can control their jealousy by dealing with the real issue behind it: their own insecurities

  • LittleRedWolfGirl

    I think the legit nice guys don’t go around proclaiming that they are. They don’t do the things “nice guys” claim to do. They just act… genuine. They aren’t perfect, but don’t get butthurt when life doesn’t follow the script they wrote in their heads.

  • Gigi

    It’s creepy because it’s like the same thing just happened to me a year ago. Luckily, I live in a place where my cell phone doesn’t work. But it took him almost a year to finally realize I wasn’t ignoring his texts, I just wasn’t getting them. Sadly, it took me a little longer to finally realize I just needed to block his number.