Liking a shy guy can be really tough. It’s easy to talk to a dude who’s happy to talk right back to you, but it’s not as easy to chat up someone who barely gives you more than a one-word answer. And forget about the talking stuff: it’s almost impossible to know if a shy guy is into you or not.
Most of us have probably been in this situation at some point (after all, not all dudes can be super outgoing and make the first move), so when I saw this question in the message boards, I knew I had to get more advice for this girl. Check out her dilemma, see what other girls had to say and offer your own words of wisdom.
So there’s this guy in my class who I like, but he’s extremely shy around girls! I don’t know how to start talking to him, how to start something with him, or if he even would like me… I’m kind of in a frenzied state… Please! Any kind of advice is welcome.
Tell him he’s a sexy biatch and you should hang out sometime.
The best thing to do is first hang around the people he hangs with; like if you know anyone that knows the person you like, then tell them to help you and slowly get to know him. With shy guys, try not to overwhelm them. Start off nice, then slowly start showing him what kinda of personality you have. Good luck!
It sounds like you’re going to have to be the one that makes the first move with this dude. Don’t stress about it! If he’s really that shy, he will probably love and respect the fact that you have the guts to make a move on him. Before you tell him how you feel, start striking up conversations with him. Ask him about anything you know you have in common or schoolwork. Get him comfortable by talking about simple things that aren’t going to make him feel even more shy.
Once he seems like he’s opening up more, you can try asking if he wants to hang out sometime. If you’re feeling super uncomfortable about doing that, start slow by inviting him to hang with you and your friends at the movies or a party or something. Just take things slow and see what happens. And if you want to make a bolder move, go for it!
Have you ever crushed on a shy guy? How did you handle it? What advice do you want to give this girl? Tell us in the comments!