These “Nice” Guys From OKCupid Don’t Know What Nice Means

These self-proclaimed “nice” guys of just don’t get it.

You can’t be a nice guy if you say things that are totally sexist, rude and immature. You can’t really be a nice guy if you make broad generalizations about women based on the actions of a few women you know. Also? You can’t get women to believe you’re a nice guy by telling them you are and then insulting them. It doesn’t work that way, dudes.

What exactly am I talking about? These “nice” guys from who have portrayed themselves as anything but nice. I always heard that the world of online dating was filled with some pretty weird people (although it’s not all weird people), but I didn’t realize just how many jerks there were. Luckily, the genius behind the Tumblr rounded them up for us.

These guys seem to follow some sort of pattern. They write that they are one of the few truly nice guys left out there, but then they convince you otherwise by whining about always being stuck in the friend zone, complaining about how women are stupid and always choose the wrong guy and then saying something really derogatory. Examples? Most of these men say women have an obligation to keep their legs shaved and a few of them apparently don’t know the meaning of the word “no.” For example, in the section that says “NO means NO” on OkCupid, one guy wrote, “Mostly, occasionally it’s really a Yes in disguise.” Um, no. No, it’s not.

This Tumblr would be absolutely hilarious if it weren’t so disgusting and uncool and sort of pathetic. I mean, okay, I still find this funny, but that’s because I can’t help but laugh at these guys. Not because they’re looking for love online (there’s nothing wrong with that) or because they’ve been hurt before (we all have). I’m laughing at them because they’re contradicting themselves by being completely insensitive while trying to convince us all that they’re worth our time. You’re not worth my time if you think no might mean yes or if you feel like all women are jerks because some of us date the wrong dude from time to time.

Oh, and that reminds me: don’t say stuff like that. Guys, don’t constantly complain about being “friend-zoned” because the girl you’re into picks someone you don’t think is right for her. And don’t take that bad experience out on the entire female population. Same goes for you, ladies – it’s not fair to call all guys douchebags because a few guys didn’t treat you right.

On that note, I’m going to go back to browsing this Tumblr all day to procrastinate by making myself laugh.

What do you think about this Tumblr? Do you think these guys are lame or are we being too hard on them? Have you ever tried online dating? Tell us in the comments!


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  • Well…

    I’m a vegetarian, and a feminist and people call me a hippie. Well that guy must really hate me! XD

    • Marian

      I hate you too. And I’m sure the rest of the decent population do as well. Congratulations on being the worst thing about humanity.

      • Chris

        If I may ask, what’s wrong with vegetarians, feminists, and hippies?

  • melissaB

    Oh you mean how this exact website generalizes men? You are such hypocrites here!

    • Angel

      I compleatly agree.

  • LittleRedWolfGirl

    Oh my god, it’s so true. I’ve used that site from time to time (yes, I’ll admit it). Back before, when I thought I was looking for a dude, the kinds of guys who would message me were often like this. I’d browse through their questions to see the things they had answered that were ‘unacceptable’ in terms of how they compared to my answers, and it was so obvious that they hadn’t really bothered to look through my profile, because there were so many major things we disagreed on. A lot of the guys on that site don’t seem to care about compatibility, sadly (at least the ones I encountered). It got real old, real fast.