The definitive ending of a relationship can really suck. You’ve likely invested a lot of time and emotion, and when it finally comes to an end, it’s usually a pretty big bummer. Even big-time stars aren’t shielded from break-ups – earlier this week the divorce of Zooey Deschanel and Ben Gibbard was finalized. The couple had been split up for awhile, but we can totally relate if Zooey’s feeling a little bummed out by the official-ness of it all, especially when the whole Internet is buzzing with the news.
The thing is though, Zooey is a super cool girl with a lot of awesome things going for her – just like you! Everyone’s love lives are full of some bumps along the way, and taking a glance at Zooey’s life provides a really valuable source of love lessons. Whether it’s how to get through the tricky stuff or smart practices to make your relationship work, we can all learn a lot from Zooey’s actions, words and characters.
Whether you’re in a relationship, just getting out of one, or looking for a new romance, here’s eight love lessons that’s we’ve picked up from Zooey Deschanel to help guide you through.
It's Okay If Things Don't Work OutLook, if something doesn’t feel right or make you completely happy, you shouldn't feel trapped or obligated to sacrifice your well-being. It doesn't make you a failure or a bad person for ending a relationship. If you talk about it and handle it maturely, it actually could allow both of you to go on to find the happiness you truly deserve. Source: Adriana M. Barraza / WENN.com
Don't Air Your Dirty LaundryAfter a break-up, you may feel like venting, but if you get everyone talking about it, the less likely it is to go away. I don't really remember hearing Zooey talk about the personal details of her break-up with the media, and when I think about Zooey in the past year, only the success of her show comes to mind - not any lingering relationship details. It's a classy move to respect your former partner, but it also sets you up to get a fresh start. Source: Jay Valena/ WENN.com
Try Becoming Friends FirstSpeaking of New Girl, we can also take a lesson from her character Jess and her roommate Nick (Jake Johnson). We can tell that Nick and Jess are kind of meant to get together, but there’s something really nice about watching them come to love each other as friends first. Forming a really strong bond like Jess and Nick can be a real plus if you decide to start a relationship down the line. Source: Cousart/JFXimages/WENN.com
Guys Who Are Just Friends Are Okay TooThat said, you shouldn't feel pressured to strike up a relationship with a guy friend - whether your friends want you to or you're sick of being single - just because he happens to be there. You shouldn't settle like that, and it could damage those valuable friendships. Zooey is a great example of having some notable non-romantic friendships, like those with her former co-star Joseph Gordon-Levitt and her band partner M. Ward. Source: Bridow/WENN.com
Don't Be Jealous Of Your Taken SistersSometimes we find ourselves comparing our love lives to those around us. However, if you use other people as a measure of your happiness, it can get you down or make those people uncomfortable. Seeing her sister Emily married could maybe make Zooey feel resentful, but instead these two seem like great friends who support each other no matter what is happening in the other's love life. Source: Adriana M. Barraza / WENN.com
Don't Get Stuck With One TypeZooey is a lady of many talents, so it makes sense that when it comes to relationships, she's dated guys who have a variety of careers. She's dated actors, musicians and her alleged new boyfriend, Jamie Linden (pictured), is a screenwriter and director. It’s cool to learn some new things from who you are dating, so don’t be afraid to go for someone who maybe has different interests, skills or talents than yourself or your last boyfriend. Source: WENN.com
Develop Your Passions Outside The RelationshipBetween her website (HelloGiggles.com), her band, and her show, recently things seem to be going pretty great in many areas of Zooey’s life. By taking a little time to explore your own passions and enjoy your personal success, it builds up your self-confidence, self-worth and gives you time to think about what you really want out of a relationship. You'll go into your next one even better for it. Source: WENN.com
Overall, Don't Judge LoveIt's not only her actions, but her words that give us love lessons. We'll leave you with this wise gem attributed to Ms. Deschanel: "Love is individual to each person and I don’t think you can define it before experiencing it because it isn’t going to be the same for everybody.” Source: Daniel Tanner/ WENN.com
What do you think about these love lessons from Zooey Deschanel? Are there any others that you would have added? Is there another celebrity whose life you get valuable love lessons from? Tell us about it in the comments!
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