Are you in a toxic relationship? Chances are, you might be… or you’ve already been in one, or you’re going to be in one. That might sound super negative, but it turns out it’s also kind of true: experts say that more than half of all people will be in a toxic relationship at some point of their life.
Don’t feel bad about getting yourself involved in a bad relationship – it can happen easier than you think, and once you’re involved in it, it can be really hard to get yourself out. Learning how to be strong enough to get rid of someone who is bad news can take time. If you feel like you’re in a toxic relationship, but you’re not sure how to end it, you’re probably not alone. Once we feel dependent on a person who’s been a huge part of our lives for a while, it’s really difficult to leave that person behind, no matter how terrible things are between you two.
So, how do you get yourself out of a toxic relationship? We’ve come up with a few tips to help you. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, but in the end, it will definitely be worth it. Read these 7 ways to end a bad relationship – whether it’s for your sake, or your friends. One day, these tips might help.
Recognize Your Self-Worth
Girl - you're awesome. It's time you recognize that and ditch this loser who has been holding you back! Take a few minutes to think about all of the great things about yourself. Remind yourself that you deserve a dude who will treat you right all of the time, not just sometimes. If you really need help in the confidence department, consider speaking to someone like a trusted parent, friend or even a psychologist. Just keep telling yourself how awesome you really are, and soon you'll start to believe it.
Make A List Of Reasons Why You're Breaking Up
It's easy to have doubts before a breakup and to wonder if you're doing the right thing. To put your mind at ease, make a list of exactly why things need to end. Putting these reasons down on a paper may make them seem more real. It's a good way to remind yourself of why he doesn't deserve a second chance. Don't throw this out!
Build Up A Support System
I won't sugarcoat things - breaking up with this guy is going to be hard. So before you do it, make sure you have a support system who will have your back when you're feeling really sad. This can be your besties, your mom, family members - whoever you feel really close to and comfortable with. Fill them in on what's going on and let them know you'll need their help to get through this.
Practice Your Breakup Speech
Don't go into this breakup unprepared. It's harder to end a toxic relationship than it is to end a good relationship, because there are a lot more emotions involved. And if this guy is manipulative, it's going to be even more difficult. Make a mental note of everything you want to say and how you want to say it - then practice in front of a mirror, or if you feel comfortable, your friends. When the times come for the real breakup speech, you'll be less likely to fumble your words or say something you don't mean.
Make Plans So You're Busy After The Breakup
After a hard breakup, we sometimes feel like all we want to do is curl up in bed and not move for the next six months. Don't do that! Keeping yourself busy is going to help you forget about your ex and move on. Arrange a few "dates" with your bestie, make plans with a friend or family member you haven't seen in a while, ask your boss for some extra hours. Just don't allow yourself to be in bed after the breakup - it will make you lonely and more likely to rethink your decision.
Review That Breakup List
Remember that list I told you to make before the breakup? There was a reason I said don't throw it out - so that you can look at it later on. It's normal to have feelings of regret and loneliness after a tough breakup. You might feel like you want to go back to your ex, so you need to remind yourself why you broke up in the first place. This list will give you some serious flashbacks.
Start Moving On
It might take some time before you feel like you're ready to move on. But once you get past the really tough times, you need to start going forward with your life - and making yourself your top priority.
Do you think you’re in a toxic relationship right now? Are any of your friends? What do you think about this advice? Tell us in the comments!