Kelly Clarkson got engaged this week after being single almost forever. And it gives us all some hope and reveals a lot about love.
When she told everyone she started dating Brandon Blackstock we were all so happy for her, because dude–it’s Kelly Clarkson. When she announced she was engaged, we were absolutely stoked. She’s gotten us through a lot of breakups and heartbreaks of our own, so seeing her happy felt like a big victory for the everygirl, right?
The American Idol winner was single for so long that people long speculated that she was actually a lesbian (and um, gossiping about anybody’s sexuality is obviously stupid and irresponsible). But whether you’re gay or straight or bi or anything else, there’s nothing wrong with being single. In fact, it’s a lot better to be single than to be stuck with someone who isn’t good for you.
You might feel bummed, especially around the holidays or Valentine’s Day, or during homecoming or prom season. We know–it can totally suck seeing everyone all cute and coupled up when you’re alone. But being alone doesn’t have to mean that you’re lonely. (Just think–one less present to buy!)
Being single may mean that you’re smart. A lot of you have probably seen your friends in crappy relationships filled with drama because they’re scared to be single–and they may even be jealous of you. But because you can see things objectively, you’re like, “Hmm. Not for me right now.” And that’s such a good thing!
Being single also means you’re probably busy and have your own life, which is an awesome thing. Kelly Clarkson was focused on ruling the charts, touring, and crossing genres (dude, even her country songs are catchy!) and not on finding a boyfriend. Brandon Blackstock came along when he did without her worrying about it, and it put her in a really good place emotionally and mentally to start a relationship–because she didn’t feel like she needed one to be complete. She completed herself!
The point is, Kelly Clarkson became the very “Miss Independent” that she sang about. She did her own thing, didn’t need anyone around, and lived her own life to the fullest–and love found her. We can all learn a thing or two for Kel. If it’s not happening now, that doesn’t mean that it won’t. It just means that you and the right guy are both worth waiting for–and you’re probably waiting for each other. Don’t settle because you don’t have to.
In the meantime, we’ll be singing “Stronger” into our hairbrushes, content in knowing that someday our prince will come!
Do you hate being single? Do you think Kelly Clarkson was right to wait for one awesome guy or that she should have dated around more first? Do you feel pressure to have a boyfriend? What’s your favorite Kelly Clarkson anthem? Tell us in the comments!