Your Boyfriend And Your Ex Are Friends?! Can That Ever Work?

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RIP Jelena: After Justin Bieber hung out with her ex, Nick Jonas, Selena Gomez broke it off for good! | Source: WENN

Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez have had a rocky relationship for a while. They broke up about a month ago, and Justin was hanging out with Victoria’s Secret models–not good. He had to work extra hard to win her back, and it looks like he blew it again. Another guy came between Selena and Justin: Nick Jonas. But not in the way you might expect.

It wasn’t Selena Gomez hanging out with the Jonas Brother. Rather, Justin hung out with Selena’s ex, Nick, in the recording studio and apparently beat the snot out of him in a ping pong match. The guys then tweeted about it (ouch!). This all set Selena off. “Justin and Nick Jonas hung out all night,” a source told Hollywood Life. “Selena was crying about it. He wouldn’t even return her calls when she found out and called him up. Hanging out with Nick proved that he wants to just be a jerk about this, and Selena’s sick of being heartbroken. They are finished, and I think it’s for good this time.”

Now, this is kind of a toughie. You can’t control who your boyfriend is friends with, but we can totally understand why Selena wouldn’t necessarily want Justin bonding with her ex–that’s uncomfortable and awkward: What if they’re talking about her? It’s just a weird situation all around.

How should you deal with your guy being friends with your ex? That depends on a few things.

First, were they friends before you started dating? Then you have less leeway, because it’s something you knew going in. You can try to set boundaries: “Hey, can you just not bring my name up? Or hang out when I’m around?” and if he’s worth your time, he’ll understand.

If they became pals after you got together, that’s a little weird, but not necessarily bad: If you and your ex are both genuinely over one another, you can just try to keep a safe yet civil distance. If you think there’s going to be drama, though, you may want to lay down the law with your dude. In addition to the guidelines listed before, you may also want to ask him why he’s suddenly BFFs with your old boyfriend just to get a better understanding of the situation: Do they both love ping pong? Are they each the only other guy they know who’s really into Deadpool? It may be innocent enough. Also consider this: Do you live in a small town? It may be a situation of proximity and a lack of other bromance options. Though Justin Bieber and Nick Jonas are pretty popular, in Hollywood, it’s a pretty small circle, and everyone is bound to run into one another at some point.

Obviously, having your boyfriend playing video games with your ex is a little awkward and may be off-putting. But if you’re secure in your relationship (and in yourself) and truly past your former flame, it doesn’t need to be as dramatic as the dilemma Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber got into with Nick Jonas. We think the issues Selena and Justin had before just made what may have not been a huge deal otherwise into a bad situation … and maybe inspired that dance!

Do you think Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber are broken up for good? Do you think Justin Bieber hung out with Nick Jonas just to make Selena Gomez upset, or that it was a more innocent meeting than she thinks? How would you feel if your boyfriend or girlfriend suddenly started hanging out with your ex? Tell us in the comments!

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  • carlly

    I used to date my neighbor and we started going to the same school and we broke up so i started going out with my old school bf and they became best friends because they had a lot of the same classes. It’s never awkward and no one mentions that we used to go out. Simple. So i guess in some situations it is ok.

  • Lentil soup

    Hollywoodlife is BS

  • chantel

    this kids need to grow up. he wasn’t hanging out with nick to bother selena, he’s probs a cool guy and cool guys hang out together. omg he didn’t answer her phone calls!!! wtf its not like he looked at the phone and ignored it. there is such thing as not having it with you 24/7
    look, i hate justin beiber, the guy just bothers me. but here, he’s not at fault. selena is being a drama queen.

  • Rose

    While I don’t think he did it intentionally to make her upset…it’s still his fault! He ignored her all night long! What was she supposed t think him+her ex+her being ignored+ their past= sad selena= no jelena

    I HOPE they never get back together! Selena has suffered enough and shouldn’t any longer! from the belieber death threats, victoria secret models, now this? I dont hate justin but im disappointed….

  • Tayylove96

    My exes and my boyfriend all know each other and hang out. They’re on the same team. Its not weird at all. My boyfriend keeps all our stuff private. They don’t talk about us. We can all hang out and not be awkward. I can hang out with either ex and it not be awkward and my boyfriend not think anything of it. I go to their games and cheer for them all (of course for my boyfriend the loudest). Im their goodluck charm I have to touch the logo of the school before every game as superstition. They buy me food and its not awkward at all you and your partner have to trust each other. They’re not considered my exes but our friends.