Comments on: From The Message Boards: My Crush Has A Girlfriend But Still Flirts With Me – What Do I Do?

By: shikharules

shikharules — Sun, 06 Jan 2013 09:01:43 +0000

why are guys such flirts?? It’s sooo frustrating…I wish they could be focussed on their gf ONLY…it makes me wonder, if guys can love anybody truly…:(

By: Taylor

Taylor — Mon, 31 Dec 2012 01:54:03 +0000

This is my life story. Not even kidding. My really close guy friend had always treated me differently than other girls or at least from what I could see. He really seemed to like me, he had complimeneted me so many times I can’t even keep count, he was super super nice to me while to my other friends he’d always make fun of, he’d tell me I’m the best and encourage me at literally anything even if I said I couldn’t do it, reassured me, texted me the cutest things, carried my books when I came back to school after being sick and was really worried about me when I was sick and even when I was getting better he was super concerned. I legit thought he liked me. And when summer rolled around, he had met this girl who not even long after became his girlfriend.
I was soooo hurt when I found out. Especially since when he told me about her later, he called her really really clingy and obsessive, and not even pretty but he liked her mostly for her personality. It killed me when later, when summer ended and the school year began, he gave me his jacket at a football game because I was really cold. And he and I were really close together under the blanket that my friends brought for all of us to sit under on the ground. So close that his leg was touching mine. And my bestie saw it and she told me later lol. I was full of lust for that boy who fooled me once already. And he fooled me in to falling for him several times while I was battling with my mind to get over him. But now I finally see he doesn’t deserve me, he doesn’t deserve any girl. And now he’s after my other best friend (even tho he told us personally he doesn’t like her), cause I’m darn sure he can sense when a girl likes him. And my friend is crazy for him, even tho he has a girlfriend still. We’ve tried telling her but it’s no use. I realized that I was in the same spot as her just a while ago. And I hate it. But now I think I’m over him cuz a new guy moved to our town who is S-E-X-Y. and Im pretty sure single.

By: April

April — Sun, 30 Dec 2012 23:00:41 +0000

I have this problem only its a bit different. My first boyfriend broke up with me after a rather smooth relationship, but we kept in close contact and were in an open relationship before he found a new girlfriend. a month after he did i found a new boyfriend. while we were both dating other people he came back and flirted with me, it escalated until one time we were actually alone together and we held hands. i knew he wasn’t looking for a long meaningful relationship though, and his girlfriend came to me for advice once or twice. eventually i ended up cutting off contact with him and his girlfriend, which is probably for the best, since all it did was screw up all four of our lives. its best to think about other people instead of your own selfish intents, it might help in making the right decision in the long run.

By: IG:@OriginallyMade_

IG:@OriginallyMade_ — Fri, 21 Dec 2012 19:15:18 +0000

Well, theres this boy at my highschool. Ive never seen anybody like him, everything about him i like, but sadly im in your shoes ^ he has a girlfriend too. When he says “he wants to chill” & when he complements me i always say dont and stop! but he never does. So this morning i got the courage and i told him “BOY! Leave Me Alone. Go Do That Stuff To Your girlfriend, you dont deserve me, or her and im done with your mind games” later in the day i wished i would have gave him a hug first cause his hugs are warm but i also realized if he will cheat on her with the many girls i seen him talking to today after that, then he will cheat on me & WE ALL DESERVE ( BETTER ). Would you rather keep focusing on a boy who isnt focused on you, or get over and be a little hurt for the next few days? Youll get over it. You wont die! #GirlPower lol.

By: Jane

Jane — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 04:08:29 +0000

I’m in a similar situation. I basically cut off contact with the guy. It’s not fair to his girlfriend, and it’s not fair to me, either. Better to remove myself from the situation than have it blow up in our faces.

By: Heather

Heather — Sun, 16 Dec 2012 21:04:30 +0000

Yikes! I’ve been in both situations! I had a crush on the guy when he was taken…he handled it maturely and didn’t flirt back, but as soon as she was out of the picture, he started flirting back! We started dating, and other girls started flirting with him when we were dating, and boy, did it really piss me off. Word of advice, keep the other woman’s perspective close. It makes things a lot less painful and a lot less awkward.