Comments on: I Lost My Best Friend… Because She Was Jealous Of My Boyfriend

By: Lauren

Lauren — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 21:43:52 +0000

I think that it sounds like you guys had an amazing bond and you really enjoyed each others company. If you guys REALLY were as close as you said you were and understood each other, then you guys shouldn’t give that up over a guy or jealousy.

Now this is just me personally… I have mainly guy friends, and the few “girlfriends” I have are so close that I know nothing would come inbetween us. You may think that having guys as friends is awkward or something, but I think it’s great. I am in a way a tom-boy since I like doing all the main things like guys do… anyway, the point is, is that you should just at least give it one more shot and try to explain to her that you love her no matter what (non-lesbian way) and that nothing will come inbetween your friendship. Tell her that there will be times when you don’t get along, but it will all be worth it for the many good times spent. If she doesn’t accept your apology or anything, then it probably isn’t worth it and she doesn’t care.
I used to have a best friend, and in 5rd grade, I started hating her new friend and tried to keep them apart as much as possible. Then, I realized that hating wouldn’t do anything and I just apologized and me and her friend became really good friends. Now I still have my old friend and a new friend. In middle school, she started hanging out with other girls and yet another friend of hers came along. Instead of getting jealous, I just let my friend have other friends, and i started hanging out with new friends as well. Jealousy is never the answer… and I know this information is more towards K than you I thought it might help…
the point is, is that if you two are meant to be friends than you will be… my friend and I are still super close and I know we will be forever. this may sound like information to give on relationships, but friendship is a type of relationship. it won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.

By: Xavi

Xavi — Sat, 15 Dec 2012 15:10:56 +0000

I recently lost my BFF too. Sometimes I think, that she was never my friend cus she only talked about herself and her guy problems. One day, she kept talking about this guy that was an asshole to her and always had an on and off relationship with her for like 2 years! Anyways, i told her that he’s not worth it anymore (altho, as her best friend, i supported her on this for 2 years) but I didn’t want her to get hurt anymore. She got so angry, she stopped texting me and I gave her some space, even though i didn’t know what was wrong with her. On my birthday she said happy birthday but possibly in the rudest way possible and even through text. I said thanks, next day i texted her to see what her problem was and why she was texting me. She told me that i didn’t support her with the guy she was with and she kept bragging about how she found a new best friend. It seems like im always saying sorry for our fights but this time i didn’t even bother. Now i don’t even talk to her but she does spread lies about me all the time. Im just dealing with it /:

By: panagiota

panagiota — Fri, 14 Dec 2012 14:29:33 +0000

Very good article!!! I love it!!! <3

By: Simone

Simone — Fri, 14 Dec 2012 14:09:14 +0000

Have you ever thought that maybe k had some feelings of liking you as more than a friend that she maybe didn’t quite work out? When I was younger I used to get very very jealous when my best friend at the moment would hang out with their boyfriends… Looking back, I see that it was because I was jealous of the guy in the equation and didn’t feel like I could say anything.

By: layla

layla — Fri, 14 Dec 2012 06:46:31 +0000

I so agree. good point.

By: Ana

Ana — Thu, 13 Dec 2012 22:38:03 +0000

If I was you I would just leave k alone. I also lost a BFF and today we don’t talk that much as we use to. She doesn’t even say hi toe when she sees me. In 7th grade I told her how much I liked this guy. She said he wasn’t worth it and that he wasn’t that cute. I agreed with her and we left it like that. But two months pass and lately we didn’t see each other. One day one of my friends tells me that my BFF is going out with the guy I like. The guy that she said wasn’t worth it. When I talked to her she said that she changed her mind and that she saw how cute he was. I told her that I liked him. She said that she didn’t know and that I told her I didn’t like him. I was so sad and hurt. But you know what’s wired that that guy came to me one day and told me that he actually liked me. And that every time he kissed my BFF he thought of me. I told my friends and they said that I should go out with him behind my exbff back I was tempted but I didn’t want more drama and I knew that he wasn’t worth it.

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 13 Dec 2012 21:00:01 +0000

Even though K was clearly overreacting, I kind of get her… My highschool bff with whom I have shared everything since 7th grade got together with her first boyfriend about 2 months ago. I like the guy, and I am happy for both of them. He has depressions and is in a clinic most of the time. I totally support her being there for him whenever she can, but I still feel left out a little bit. I hate myself for being mad at her, because the rational part in me knows that she is doing everything right, and its extra ridiculous because we still go to school together and see each other almost every day. But I’m still just the littlest bít of jealous.

The point is, I see where K comes from. When I was particularly mad at my friend for not returning my messages I thought about breaking things with her, too. But unlike K i came to my senses… If she doesn’t realize she is the one mistaken here, she’s not worth calling her a BFF.