Do Guys Lie About How They Really Feel About A Hookup?

Is he lying about it being good? | Source: ShutterStock

Is he lying about it being good? | Source: ShutterStock

Dear Ethan,

Are guys liars when it comes to sexual intercourse? Like if the girls vagina didn’t taste good would he lie and tell her it did? And if he thought the sex was really bad, would he lie about that to her also?

Overall, I’d think that most guys would rather not say anything at all than lie about intimate sexual details. But unfortunately, without meeting the guy and knowing a few more specifics about the situation, there’s really no way for me to assure you that he’s telling the truth. There will always be jerks out there who have the potential to be dishonest about anything in a relationship, whether sexual or emotional. What I can assure you of, however, is that actions almost always speak louder than words.

For example, if a guy tells you that he didn’t have a problem with the way you taste, but refuses to ever perform oral sex after a single attempt, he might be withholding information. It could mean that he found it unpleasant, but all it indicates for certain is that he’s not telling you everything. Perhaps he doesn’t enjoy oral in general, or feels embarrassed because he thinks you didn’t like it the first time. At the very least, he’s not being entirely candid.

With all that said, if he seems to be into the sex, and tells you he’s into the sex, you need to believe that he’s into the sex! This “law of trust” works both ways for guys and girls. Early on, I almost walked away from my current girlfriend because I couldn’t believe that such a cool, hot chick really wanted to make our relationship work after our first fight. A friend of mine reminded me that I had to give her the benefit of the doubt and take her at her word, as it’s the only way to build trust with a partner.

Beyond what he tells you, if a guy’s behavior seems to indicate he’s being insincere, you have to address the fact that you don’t feel he’s being honest. Ultimately, the gap between his words and actions is one worthy of discussion.

Good luck!

Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. He is also the creator and editor of For more on Ethan, visit…or call his mom, Robin.

Are you confused about a guy? Do you find yourself wondering, “What is he thinking?” Tell us everything in the comments! And if you have a question for Ethan, email him at!


7 relationship secrets you need to keep to yourself


Don’t forget to follow us on Twitter


Posted in: Ask A Guy, Love Advice
Tags: , , , , ,
  • Pingback: Taylor Swift Drops New Video Has Punk-ish Hair()

  • Lolly

    “Hey, guy! Can I predict an individual’s behavior based solely on the fact that he’s male?”


    • Ethan Fixell

      ha, yeah… maybe that’ll be my next post.

      • Lolly

        It was this post. You’re very patient, but so many of the questions you get could go straight into the ‘Guys are human beings!’ bin.