Are You Too Grossed Out By Sex?!

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If sex really grosses you out, you may have bigger problems than you realize! | Source: ShutterStock

Let’s put it out there: Sex can be pretty gross, but it can also be pretty awesome, and that sort of cancels out a lot of the inherent nasty stuff. But it turns out if you’re really, really grossed out by sex, you may have a bigger problem.

A new study revealed that feeling disgust at sexual situations can actually physically prevent you from having or enjoying sex at all. Women who suffer vaginismus are more likely to be grossed out by sexual, sexual situations, or just the idea of body fluids being exchanged. (Okay, when you put it that way, it is pretty gross.) Vaginismus is a disorder that makes your pelvic muscles involuntarily contract if and when they’re penetrated–meaning it usually prevents vaginal sexual intercourse from happening at all.

The research says that if you feel disgusted by sex, vaginismus may be a subconscious defense mechanism that the body uses to prevent it from going down (or in, as it were). And disgust is something tough to control–think of how seeing someone else puke makes you gag. You can’t help it, right?

Researchers did a bunch of surveys on sexual disgust on normal, healthy people and some on women and men with sexual disorders including vaginismus. They found that the women with vaginismus reported a lot more disgust at sexual situations than sexually healthy people or people with other sexual disorders did.

However, it’s sort of unclear in a chicken-or-the-egg sort of way which causes which. Does disgust trigger the body into shutting down the possibility of intercourse through vaginismus? Or does the discomfort and embarrassment that comes with vaginismus lead to being disgusted with sex in general? It can–and probably does–go both ways.

Which isn’t to say it’s abnormal to think sex is a little icky. It is. But it’s also amazing when it’s right. If you experience physical discomfort and disgust during sex, though, you may want to talk to your gyno, because it’s never supposed to feel bad. (If it was, we’d all be extinct by now!)

Do you think sex is gross? Have you ever experienced disgust or discomfort during sex? Do you think one leads to the other? Tell us in the comments!

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  • Connie

    Sex has always disgusted me, and performing oral sex makes me throw up. I started having sex when I was 18 and I never felt as though I wanted sex, it was just something expected of me. I’ve been married twice, have two children, and never could get used to it. It smells bad, I don’t feel any different than if someone were rubbing my elbow, it makes me smell bad (baking soda baths help somewhat), and why does he want it all the time??! Gross. I even tried masturbating to see if I was doing something wrong. I can orgasm, but it’s like “ee-hmm” and then there’s stink. I don’t see what all the hoopla is about, it’s still all really gross, and I still have no urges to do it.

  • Dave H

    That’s the thing with me.As much sex on the brain as I have,i don’t get any.One,premature ejaculation,which is very embarrassing,and the ick factor involved with the scent,taste,texture of the vj.And I was sexually molested when i was 12,and it went on sporadically for about 3 years.And i haven’t seen a head shrinker about it yet.And since I can remeber ,I’ve always been shy about approaching women.Help!

  • Athulya. SH

    Hey friends! I’m Athulya and I’m 19yrs old :) I’ve never been sexually attracted to a guy before but ya, I do like a guy now ( I like him as a person ) nothing sexual at all. I also have no desire for sex. The idea of sex is repulsive to me. Even seeing couples or attending weddings is hard for me cuz it reminds me of sex. I also don’t watch romantic movies and don’t listen to romantic songs either. I’m actually, very much against all this to such a level that I developed depression and have to take cipralex tablets now. The medicine is good and I don’t feel depressed or suicidal any more. Well, I had suididal thought before cuz I hate sex, sexual attraction..everything related to it. So, I hated my life, hated for being born and hated the world. I still hate it but I’m not depressed and am not suicidal. I’m having a good life. Any thoughts……?

  • Kevin

    I like the female anatomy. I masturbate regularly! But certain sexual acts seem really gross. Specially the ones dealing with anus and at times vagina. Idk, I don’t feel gross all the time but I do sometimes. It’s yucky to think of licking genitals, anus!

  • Amanda

    Okay here’s my thing: It’s not the thought of sex generally that makes me sick (I enjoy thinking about it and watching porn like everyone) its when it becomes an option for ME to have sex.
    Im fine with self touching, but the idea of someone else doing it to me creeps me the hell out!
    As a 21 year old woman, is this weird? Like REALY weird? And is there even a name for this?

  • Me

    My problem is this. I think the female vagina is the grossest looking thing I have ever seen! I wish I didn’t feel that way. As a man of course I am horny. And as everybody knows, men are very visual. So I desire something that I can’t stand to look at! I hate it! What am I gonna do. I don’t have sex at all. It’s been 24 years for me. And to all you extremely simple minded people out there, just because I think the vj is gross does not simply make me default to being gay! I think women are hot, except for their spot. So I guess I’m single for life. Which apparently is ok with the ladies because I’m ugly and nobody wants me anyways so I can just plan on being sexually frustrated for the rest of my life.

  • xxsunshine1

    Maybe some people think its gross because of media: the way they use it to sell anthing and everything. maybe its because of the way people at their school are, sick and complaining about their “boyfriends” theyll have it with and break up later with, or maybe some people get grossed out by knowing your like 3 inches away from their small intestines, and the fact a penis and vagina are just fleshy veiny bloody-filled organ. Everyone has their reasons and i really dont have a problem, but sex isnt something thats on my mine 24/7, ive only thought of doing it with one person…so… even i still think..your touching organs and stuff..that is gross.

  • Nd

    this article resonates with me. i suffer both vaginismus [painfully impossible penetration — and pain for him, also, if he persists] and an intense ‘yick’ perception of sex. i also identify as asexual (since don’t really mind missing what i’ve never found genuinely appealing, as the idea turned out to be more attractive than the mood-killing actuality)…

    however, i am newly in therapy to remedy the vaginismus — wondering that perhaps removing the pain will likewise invite some enjoyment, if not just sufficient tolerance………..

    just food for thought.

  • Violet_Rain

    The tone of this article bothers me somewhat. Just because someone is grossed out by sex, it doesn’t necessarily mean there’s a health issue. Now, if somebody finds sex disgusting but *wants* to be able to enjoy it and stop thinking about it that way, then maybe that’s an issue to be dealt with. However, if somebody is grossed out by sex, but is perfectly happy that way and has no desire to have sex with anybody, then that’s not abnormal.

    • Sarah

      Sex is the most natural basic instinct we have as humans.
      To have sex is to reproduce which is what we are meant to do
      As humans. If it seems normal to have no interest in or care if
      you find sex disgusting then there is something wrong. For you to
      think think that’s “normal” is not just abnormal it’s sad to. There is
      either a hormonal issue or a mental/emotional issue.

      • G

        This is me! I was sexually abused by my own father and I want to feel normal but can’t;(

  • Bobbie

    Or you could just be asexual, nothing wrong with that.

    • jeff

      There’s no such thing as an “asexual” human being. It’s just throwing a term around to make an abnormality socially acceptable. While the mechanics can be gross, it truly is a sign of psychological issues. If it was “normal” for humans to be “asexual” then we wouldn’t exist as a species.

      • Chris

        Jeff, Yes it’s real. Deal with it.

    • not new at this

      Im 37. I have 5 kids.. four teenagers and a toddler. So clearly.. my husband and i have had LOTS of sex. The amount has deindled again since our recent addition.. and eventually it just stopped. I didnt enjoy it and was able to avoid it. But now.. it grosses me out. My husband doesnt understand it. I will cry because i feel pressured into having intercourse with him (silently sob). The sounds he makes, the sounds of body fluids, the feel of body fluids.. the thought of him and me naked.. it literally grosses me out.

  • Cherri

    Sometimes I think these words are just labels to people to say they’re not normal. If they like the idea of having sex, they don’t have to. It’s a main message on this message on this site, but once a ‘name for it’ pops up, everyone’s image suddenly changes. I mean, no matter which way you look at it it, it is kinda yuck, but some people feel different about it than others.