How do guys show they are in love?
Usually, a guy will just post it on Facebook.
I’m only joking, of course (though if your man does, you might want to make sure he’s not also the type to break up on Facebook as well) – but guys do have a few gender-specific methods of expressing their love.
For one thing, guys often tend to be a bit less open with their emotions, leaning more heavily on physical cues instead. That’s not to say a woman in love won’t twirl her hair, bite her lip, or gaze longingly at her man while blinking coquettishly (okay, maybe that’s just The Little Mermaid), but often a guy in love won’t be able to keep his hands off of the lady of his dreams. Constant hugs, hand-grabs, affectionate smooches, or any other sweet action he wouldn’t normally be caught dead doing in front of his manly dude-pals are all signs that he’s hopelessly into you. Extra points awarded if he can’t stop calling or asking for plans, and super-mega bonus points if he can tolerate (or, dare he enjoy?!) your company even on your lowest, worstest of days.
But of course, the only way to know for sure if this is anything more than simple infatuation is for him to say so. As I’ve admitted before, I was the first to drop the L-bomb with my current girlfriend. But I might be an exception rather than a typical example, as most of my guy friends (especially the commitment-phobes) have let the women they’re dating (or are now married to!) take the verbal plunge first.
That said, no matter what type of guy you’re dating, you don’t have to feel like you need to take all your relationship cues from him. If you simply can’t hold it in any longer, let ‘er rip! If he’s not quite on the same page yet, don’t panic—give him some time and space to come to terms with how bonkers he truly is for you.
Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. He is also the creator and editor of ActualConversation.com. For more on Ethan, visit EthanFixell.com…or call his mom, Robin.