You’re probably sued to hearing that a lot of guys want sex on the first date–but that it’s also a bad idea to go through with it if you want a full-fledged relationship, right? (What a conundrum!) Turns out, it’s not just guys who want to hit the hay on a first date. In fact, a lot of us girls may be more likely to want to bed a guy on the first date, according to a new study. Really!
New research says that about half of guys are actually turned off when a girl wants to bone after only going out once, whereas only 39 percent of girls feel the same.
One of the researchers was just as surprised as a lot of us were by the news. “To see men considering the want for first date intimacy a bigger turn-off than women was somewhat surprising … stereotype would have us believe otherwise, men are clearly the more prudish of the two sexes!”
Now, this doesn’t mean your date doesn’t want to have sex with you eventually. Because if he asked you out, guess what? He does. But if you offer it all right away, he may be confused about your intentions and what you want. Also, it’s important to note what the researcher said: Stereotype says that guys are hornier and more likely to want sex on the first date than we are, right? So that probably skewed the results a bit, too. If a guy wants sex from us on the first date, we may not mind as much–even if we don’t give in–because we may sort of see it as, “Oh, boys will be boys!”
Unfortunately, the flip side of that? Since guys are used to assuming we may not necessarily want to get laid on a first date, it might freak them out if and when we do–because they’re not used to it, and they’re accustomed to girls declining, so they may make false assumptions about your character. It’s that whole slut-shaming double standard. It’s unfortunate, but it’s real–at least until people wise up.
How to deal? If you’re looking for more than a one-night stand and you really like a guy, you may be better off holding out on having sex with him on the first date. If he’s worth your time, he’ll be glad to wait til date two at least–and the better you know, like, and trust each other, you’ll have better sex anyway!
Have you ever had sex on the first date? Has a guy ever pressured you to go farther than you’re comfortable with on the first date? Have you ever wanted sex on the first date but your guy wasn’t into it? Tell us in the comments!