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Question: How do I know the right way to masturbate when I’m just starting?
ChickRx expert Dr. Melanie Davis, Certified Sexuality Educator says:
Good question! The short answer is you’ll know you’re doing it right if it feels good. I know, not the most satisfying answer. But, masturbation is so totally personal that there’s no one right way to do it.
When you’ve got some privacy, feel your entire vulva (all the pink, non-hair-bearing skin) to see what likes to be touched the most. The most sensitive part is usually the clitoris, which tends to hide like a small pink pearl under a hood of skin at the top of the vulva, tucked between the outer lips.
Some girls find it exciting to concentrate on the physical sensations. Others like to touch themselves while imagining a sexy partner, scene from a movie, story, etc. The longer you touch yourself, the wetter your vulva will feel. That’s a good sign you’re on the right track. It means your body is getting excited.
Some girls use their fingertips or their entire palm. Some rub a pillow, a stuffed animal, or a blanket against their clitoris. Some girls roll onto their belly and rub their clitoris against their bed. Still others might purchase battery-powered or electric toy called a vibrator to provide a pleasant buzzing sensation.
Keep experimenting with different ways of touching yourself. When something feels really, really good, stay with it, enjoy it, and relax. If your body is ready to experience an orgasm, your breathing will get faster, your mind will focus more closely on your genital sensations, your body may tense, and your hand movements may become faster or harder. If you continue, you may experience a sudden release of all that tension and feel a flush of warmth in your body that feels really good – that’s an orgasm!
Enjoy exploring! Masturbation is a great way to learn what you enjoy so that if and when you’re ready, you can teach a partner what you like.
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i have tried masturbation lots and it never works, i’ve tried loads of different ways too :/
I’ll be honest, but I’ve been masturbating for a very long time. Long before the age of 10 do to a bad experience I had growing up, but even now, I’ve only just found what I like a lot. When I’m alone, I usually close my eyes and relax before doing anything. When my mind is clear, I think about the things that turn me on. In my case, I think about being sexually dominated by someone who loves me. I also tickle my breasts or massage them and since I have prominently large breasts (42DDD) the way they don’t fit in my hands is a big turn on since I love my girls. After awhile, when massageing my breasts isn’t so fun any more I might squeeze my nipples lightly and roll them between my fingers. Basically, I immitate what I’ll likely feel when I lose my virginity.
But though I’ve tried and realized that what I like is tracing the letters of the Alphabet on my clitoris. After doing that once, you find which letters feel best and just use those. I like “B, E, H, I, J, K, M, N, R, S, T, W, X, Y, Z.” Then I usually trace an 8 on my clitoris until I’m wet. Most people may think this is weird, but I put both my hands to work on my genitalia. I use my index and middle finger on my right hand to massage my clitoris, then us my index finger on my left hand to slide into my vagina since I can only handle that. I move my hands at different speeds depending on how horny I am, but since I do yoga my arms don’t get sore or tired easily like my friends. (We’re besties so we talk about this kind of thing.)
Another thing I do drives me crazy! I do not use a vibrator because one, I’m a 17 year old virgin, and two, I really don’t want to lose my virginity to a vibrator or dildo (not to mention that I don’t think I could hide nor handle it.). Instead, I use a much more simple item. I always have a spare vibrating toothbrush and it works just fine. I usually hold the back of the toothbrush head on my clitoris with my right hand, and finger myself with my left. Just a few things to note though: Do not use the same brush to brush your teeth, refrain from pressing the brissels to your clitoris because it will hurt, don’t leave this toothbrush in your bathroom if you share a bathroom, and lastly, make sure the vibrating of the brush isn’t so loud. I love to use an Oral-B Pulsare. It’s pretty quiet when it’s against my clitoris.
I know that’s pretty weird, but it’s what I do until I lose that V-card. Don’t knock it till you try it. I hope I helped a bunch of girls with my little techniques.
Masturbating is AMAZING! Great thing is that you can do it alone and no one knows what you do. If you want to get wild there are things you can do. And then the added benefit of using a Vibrator or dildo takes it up to a whole new level. Being that you can get one if you want, that makes masturbating great even if you have a bf or you dont.
Ooo sexy
Lol, this one made me laugh so hard. I guess if u like touching ur self.
@Sarah:why did you watch your BROTHER beat his meat?
My brother and I masturbate together all the time..we have long chats while we do..so what..
I’m scared putting my finger in and I wonder if it will have any better affect than rubbing. Does it have a better sensation? How can I put my finger in, is there a certain way?
hey there is no certain way and its whatever feels good do whats comftable and if your a virgin try one finger if your not see what feels better one or two but yes it is good and a different type of feeling
Masturbation works at any age. It doesnt matter if youve started your periods or not. I started early before i started my periods and started sexually experimenting too. I know this might sound shocking. He was an older guy I liked a lot. He taught me how to masturbate and then we went on to bigger and better things. Yes masturbation and other things can happen at any age. It is enjoyable as long as you are not forced into it.
save: vagina + arousal + mentsration + soap + fingersnails + sex!!!!!!!
Will masturbation and orgasms work if youve never had your period?i havent and I’ve tried masturbation and orgasms and they dont work,Do you need a vibrator?
Yes. No, you do not need a vibrator. Shower head and hard water streams are good.
Yes, orgasms will happen with out your period. I know this because i have orgasms every time I masturbate and i haven`t had my period. Try different things like rubbing your clit and/or inserting finger into your vagina. It will happen just don’t try to hard for it or else it won’t
My first experience of masturbation was watching my brother do it through the gap in his bedroom door! I watched him jerk off for months before it occurred to me that I could experience those sensations myself.
I have a rather prominant clitoris which sticks right out when it’s hard, so having watched the way my brother rubbed his penis I naturally tried to emulate his action by treating my clitoris as a small penis and rubbing it up and down between two fingers. This quickly made me sore, without giving me the pleasure that my brother obviously enjoyed.
At this point I even had sex before I was ready, but he was useless and I was left frustrated.
I then found out that boys enjoyed “blow jobs”, or having their penises sucked,and it gave me an idea. I got a piece of soft tube from my dad’s garage, about 3/8″ in diameter. Using plenty of lubrication I placed one end of the tube over my clitoris and sucked on the other end, drawing it up into the tube. After some experimenting I had my first orgasm using this method. It was just as good as I had hoped, and I used this way for nearly a year. I also found out that I could go on to have two or three more orgasms at a time, and couldn’t understand why my brother only ever gave himself one orgasm at a time. I found out later that boys can only have one orgasm after which they go soft and numb. Glad i’m a girl!!!
i eventually found a body massager that my mum uses.It has several heads, and is mains powered. It’s presumably like a really powerful vibrator, and when I hold it against my clitoris I orgasm within seconds, and can go on and on and on……..
Anyways, just experiment and you’ll soon find out what does it for you. good luck xx
umm hey sarah…I am 17 and I’m still confused about losing my virginity…and it seems that you know quite something about sex…could you please help me and tell me that when should one lose their virginity..?? p.s…how old are you..??
thanks!
i never seem to find anything that vibratess at my house. ad we dont have tubbes. i tried a straw, but i cut myself. so….
Whenever i touch mself nothing happens. I don’t feel anything and i don’t think IT gets wetter… Whats going on
I would try using different methods such as a a sex toy , your fingers or a shower head. That always works for me. good luck
Wooow so some girls actually stick their whole palm? :0
No , that isn’t what it meant . It meant that some girls (as I) like to rub their palm ON their clitourus instead of using their fingers on their clit . I wouldn’t ever stick my entire hand inside of my love-hole . XD