Question: If my boyfriend has oral herpes and goes down on me, could I get it down there?
ChickRx expert Dr. Melanie Davis, Certified Sexuality Educator says:
First, let’s get our herpes facts straight. There are two types of the herpes simplex virus: Type 1 and Type 2. Type 1 usually affects the lips and mouth. Type 2 HSV usually affects the genitals. But the virus isn’t picky! Yes, your boyfriend can pass his oral herpes to your genitals. Likewise, genital herpes can be transmitted to the mouth.
This doesn’t mean you can never have oral sex. You just need to protect yourself. Here’s how.
Both of you need to wash your hands, genitals, and lips with soap and water before sex.
Use a barrier between his mouth and your genitals. The best barrier is a latex dental dam, which you may find at pharmacies, health clinics and online. Also, your school nurse will probably know where they are sold nearby. Pick up a few and some personal lubricant.
The dam needs to cover the area from your mons (the hair-bearing area of skin above your clitoris) to over your anus (where you poop). Smooth a few drops of lubricant on your skin first, so that the skin-side of the dam is slippery, permitting nicer sensations. You can also use your own saliva. Do not use any oil (like vaseline or baby oil) with a dental dam. Oil destroys latex and makes disease transmission a whole lot more likely.
You can make a dental dam by cutting the fingers off a latex glove and slicing it up the side so you can open it into a rectangle of latex. While your boo goes down on you, hold the top edge of the dam in place while he or she holds the sides in place.
If the barrier flips over or falls on the floor, toss it out and use a new one because the virus may already be on the mouth-side of the dam. After sex, put the dam in the garbage, not the toilet. You don’t want to clog the plumbing! Then you both should wash again with soap and water.
The herpes virus can be shed at any time, but you’re at greater risk when your partner has an active sore or feels itching or pain indicating a sore will break out soon. Avoid oral sex and kissing at these times. He or she should talk to a doctor about medication that can reduce his breakouts.
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Have you ever worried about sexual safety during oral? Would you ever use a dental dam? Ever seen one? Let me know in the comments.