What do guys think about girls making the first move? Like asking for their number or asking them out? Or even just girls texting the guy first?
If the number one question asked of me and my fellow dating coach Dave is how to overcome approach anxiety, the most popular question posed specifically by the ladies is whether or not it’s cool for a girl to ask a guy out. Well, not only do both Dave and I feel that it’s totally cool – we strongly encourage girls to do so!
Ask any guy if he’d like to be approached more often for dates, and I’ll pretty much guarantee he’ll answer “yes.” The truth is, when it comes to romance—especially in our teen years –lots of ladies have more (figurative) balls than most guys do. So don’t be afraid to (figuratively) use them! Contrary to what you may assume, being asked out is anything but emasculating for most guys – instead we feel excited, or even relieved when a lady steps up to the plate on her own.
However, if you take my advice, promise me that you won’t make a habit of letting any guy off easy. Once you initiate plans, it should be the guy’s responsibility to make the next move. Obviously if you’re the one who asks for his number, you’ll need to follow through and make the first call as well. But you don’t want to set a precedent of making all the decisions in the relationship—after all, every girl deserves to be wooed! Eventually, the courting process should resemble a game of table tennis more than a game of…you know, something…in which one person does all the work…. Golf?
You get my point.
Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. He is also the creator and editor of ActualConversation.com. For more on Ethan, visit EthanFixell.com…or call his mom, Robin.