Comments on: Should I Be Friends With Benefits With My Crush?

By: Danielle

Danielle — Thu, 03 Jan 2013 08:41:48 +0000

Honestly, here is the truth. What he wants is ‘No Strings Attached’ sex. Friends with Benefits is different. A FWB is someone you actually have a friendship with and you occassionally hook up, but you still hang out, do stuff together and carry on your normal friendship just with sex. FWB is strings attached because you two already have a history together and a friendship. So don’t get “No Strings Attached” confused with “Friends with Benefits” There is a total difference. If you have feelings for this guy and you decide to enter into a FWB or a NSA relationship, be prepared to stuff those feelings into the recesses of your mind because otherwise you are just going to get hurt. Date other people while talking to this guy.
To Heather: In a study done last year by a Michigan University, I believe, it showed that in true FWB relationships, 72% of the friends remained friends if not better friends from the relationship, 10% turned in to actual relationships, while 28% ended in total disaster. That is far from “never work out”. Although for a FWB to work both parties have to be mentally and emotionally ready for this type of relationship and it is almost ALWAYS a crash a burn if one person goes into emotionally compromised.
I am currently in a FWB relationship with a friend, who I crushed on, but had resorted to the idea that we would always just be friends and was ok with that. We hang out almost every weekend, watch movies, go to art galleries, restaurants, the park all sorts of things. We are still friends, it is not one of those where we just get together just to have sex. It’s not what FWB is about. We both date/talk to other people. Recently, my FWB admitted that he liked me more than he originally thought and we are now in offical dating status, just not exclusive. Now alos with our agreement, we do not have sex with anyone else and if at any point in time we get the feeling that someone we are dating we might want to sleep with or take that relationship to the next level we end the FWB status and go back to just being friends. This is how we are doing things and it’s working beautifully.

By: sglenn

sglenn — Fri, 07 Dec 2012 00:08:03 +0000

Dont!! I had a FWB before. I loved the guy and he new that he told me he loved me to, He told me that we would end up together after so long… Well we did end up together but just after two days after we started dating he cheeted on me, I confronted him about it and he told the whole school I was a slut and I put out for anyone. Its not woth the pain and hurt at all! If you were smart take the advice not to do it.

By: Sky

Sky — Fri, 09 Nov 2012 19:20:24 +0000

Dont do it ! He just wants a sex buddy ! And he figures your the one because your in love with him ! One time you may piss him off and he may put you on front street , then your gonna look like a slut . You shouldnt have to go through the pain of his enormous penis inside you for him not to have no relationship with you ! It isnt worth it !

By: star

star — Fri, 09 Nov 2012 04:56:26 +0000

No Way! it’s fun ATM, but in all honesty i like this guy i just met a week ago. We already kissed, nothing else but I had to tell him I just want to be friends because he isn’t looking for a relationship. I know i’ll get hurt and things won’t work out with us in the end. you should be with a guy who respects you and wants to get to know you, not your body. When a guy says can we be FWB it means he isn’t interested in you and he will never be. Men are simple. When they say something to you, listen, because usually the first time they say it, they really mean it. People do change, but in this situation I would just forget about him and go find someone else that wants you.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Wed, 07 Nov 2012 20:56:47 +0000

Dont do it, I just got out of a FWB realtionship and now that we arent hooking up he treats me like I don’t even exist. I feel hurt and used and now i wished it hadn’t happened.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Wed, 07 Nov 2012 19:46:03 +0000

Dont do it, I just finish my fwb and I hurt and he is dating one of me mates! Its wont hurt now but trust me it dose!! And he said the same thing to me! He didnt want a relationship.. And look now! trust me dont do it!!

By: Briana

Briana — Sat, 03 Nov 2012 22:43:39 +0000

Don’t do it! Trust me when I say it’s not worth putting yourself through that pain. Sure it may not hurt now but it will eventually, and it’s not gonna be easy. I had a great friend that Ive known since kindergarten and when we were freshmen in high school, we decided why not? It was both our first time and I guess that mightve added to my pain. We would make out after school and after the first week, I wanted him. I wanted him to be my boyfriend, someone I could tell my parents about, someone I could hang out with my friends, and go on dates with. But no, our relationship wasn’t like like that. We lasted 3 months when my heart couldn’t take it any more. I lost my best friend and my first love. Till this day (4 years later) I still can’t get over him, cant help but think that it wasn’t fair, I shouldn’t have been used like that. So just be careful with who you love, don’t go around kissing every hot guy you see because they are bound to leave a mark on you. Some will leave a bigger mark on you and some a smaller one. But the pain you might feel isn’t worth it.