With Halloween right around the corner (because with Halloween comes many, many skimpy costumes), I decided that this message board post was the perfect topic of discussion. One girl wonders if wearing revealing clothing makes you seem easy to guys. It’s not the first time I’ve heard the question, and I know it won’t be the last. So let’s chat about it!
Do you think wearing revealing clothing makes you seem “easy” or “slutty”? Do you think guys think that? I say, girls should be able to dress however they want without having to worry about what a dude, or anyone else, thinks… but I know that’s not always the case. Read what these ladies had to say about it and then tell us your opinion:
My whole life, I’ve been pretty well-endowed in the chest area, and I’ve always “out-boobed” (yes, out-boobed) my friends, and a lot of people in my school. And pretty often, actually basically all the time, the clothes I wear are revealing, as in they go down pretty low in the front, showing a lot of “boobage”. It’s not like I feel pressured by society to do that or anything; it makes me feel attractive and comfortable, so I usually don’t care.
But I have always had a lot of people asking me out; I guess I’m considered “hot” by a lot of guys. Which is fine by me, because even though some girls feel insulted by that, I take it as a compliment. But the thing is, sometimes I wonder whether guys want to be with me because my revealing nature makes them think I’m “easy” or something, or because of me. Do you think that if you wear clothes like that, guys take it to mean you’re “easy”? And any ways to know if a guy truly likes you for you?
I will be completely honest. Guys are wired to be visual. They see things and if they like it they go for it. So, if you are revealing a lot with your clothes, yes guys will notice, and yes they may want to pursue what they see. I am not saying that all guys are creeps or anything close to that. All I am saying is that guys are easily drawn to physical features. If you want to “weed out” the guys that only want something physical, then try to dress less revealing and see what happens. I am sure you are a lovely person inside and out. And you deserve the guy that will notice you for the person you are and your beautiful personality; and will appreciate your physical beauty.
I am one of those women that chooses to dress modestly. Some of my friends have told me that I am somewhat of a prude because I don’t show cleavage or wear mini skirts. But it is simply my decision to dress the way I do. To me, my body is something that I only want to share with the man that I marry. And my fiance is of the opinion that other guys shouldn’t be given the opportunity to see me in a purely physical/sexual way. My fiance is very respectful of me and my body because I set a standard and he respects me for it.
To each their own. How you dress is completely up to you. I am not trying to be judgemental or anything. I just want you to know that you have the choice to set a higher standard for the guys in your life. Like I said, not all guys are creeps. But all guys are visually wired. They will take notice.
Honestly, yes, there are probably a lot of guys who are asking you out because of your body and not your personality. However, I don’t see that as a reason to change how you dress. It’s unfair to assume that you are “easy” based on the size of your chest, something you cannot control and you have every right to dress how you feel most attractive. Guys, and people in general, need to stop making assumptions about people based on how they dress. If you are comfortable with how you dress then I say go for it – what you like is all that matters.
I love what both of these ladies had to say because here’s the thing: no matter what other people think or say, you should wear what you like, what makes you happy and what makes you comfortable. Unfortunately, people are going to pass judgement no matter what you wear – whether it be conservative clothing or something a little more skimpy. That’s why you should focus on wearing what you like rather than wearing what others think is appropriate.
The bottom line is that if a guy is going to judge you as “easy” just because he can check out your cleavage, he’s not a guy worth pursuing. Mature people should realize that there’s more to a person then just their appearance. So wear what you like, and don’t worry about what dudes have to say!
What do you think about revealing clothing? Do you wear it? Do you think it makes girls look “easy”? Do you agree with what we had to say? Tell me in the comments!