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Up until a few weeks ago, I was a huge fan of Rihanna. When the video for “We Found Love” came out, I watched it obsessively… I put all of her albums on my iPhone and I loved her sassy, usually inappropriate tweets and Instagram photos. I mean sure, the girl can be a little rough around the edges, but I always thought she was seriously fierce and super interesting. And then she made the incredibly stupid decision of letting her abusive ex-boyfriend Chris Brown back into her life… and I lost whatever respect I had for her.
Listen, I’m not against people giving their exes a second chance. I myself have done it. What I’m against is a girl going back to a man who abused her as badly as Chris abused Rihanna. CB fans, you can try and say that it was a long time ago and we all need to get over it. But no, we don’t need to get over it. If someone you loved and trusted punched you in the face and bit your ear, would you be like, “Eh, it happened four years ago. Whatever, I’m over it.”? Uh, no you probably wouldn’t, because that is a serious situation and not something that should be so easily forgiven.
So when I heard the recent reports that Chris dumped his GF Karrueche Tran because of his supposed reuniting with Rihanna, I was literally shocked. I mean, are you kidding me? It was one (horrible) thing to record two songs with the guy, but it’s another thing to let him back into your life. I’m all about forgiveness and giving people the benefit of the doubt, and it’s fine if Rihanna decided to forgive Chris and move on with her life. But it’s not fine for her, or anyone, to go back to a man who treated you that terribly.
A recent pic Chris posted on Instagram | Source: Instagram
Lately, I’ve been hearing way more about the Rihanna/Chris/Karrueche love triangle than I’d like. In my opinion, Chris doesn’t deserve either girl or any of the good press he continues to get, and Rihanna is showing a side of her that makes me definitely reconsider being a fan. I wish there was a way for any stories about them to be immediately deleted from my site, but there’s not. On the bright side, Rihanna has taught me a few ways to be terrible at relationships (and in general):
1. Record a song about sex with the guy who abused you
Remember earlier in the year when Rihanna released the remix of her song “Birthday Cake” featuring a few lines from Chris? And then he released a remix of “Turn Up The Music” featuring Rihanna? Yeah, those songs were probably more about making headlines and getting people to listen to their music, but still. It was basically Rihanna telling her army of young fans, “Hey, it’s fine to forgive your abusive ex and then collaborate with him on a song!” And don’t even get me started on Chris’s lyrics: “…give it to her in the worst way.” Ah, I believe you already did that to her, dude.
2. Have your BFF fight your battles for you publicly
The latest Rihanna news is that her childhood BFF, Melissa Forde, has been slaming Karrueche Tran with racial slurs and insults since CB dumped her for Rihanna. I get that there’s tension between the two girls, but racial slurs? Never cool, whether it’s public or private.
3. Insult your ex’s new girlfriend publicly
Melissa Forde isn’t the only one attacking Karrueche – Rihanna is doing her fair share also. Before Melissa called Karrueche a “rice cake” (she’s of Vietnamese descent), Rihanna posted a picture on her Instagram of a bag of rice cakes wearing sunglasses and hoop earrings with the caption, “Ima make you my bitch”. And this might be a coincidence (it might not be), but the lyrics to Rihanna’s “Birthday Cake” go like this: “If you still wanna kiss it, Come, come, come and get it, Sweeter than a rice cake, cake worth sipping.”
The offensive picture Rihanna posted | Source: Instagram
4. Get back together with the guy who abused you
Rihanna is a big girl and can make her own decisions… I get that. And I usually try not to pass judgement on other people’s relationships, since you never know what really goes on behind closed doors. But this decision? It’s a bad one, plain and simple. Not only do these two have a completely toxic relationship, but this sends a terrible message: that domestic abuse against women isn’t a relationship-ender. And it is. Because no matter what Ri-Ri did to piss off Chris, it will never justify getting punched and bitten.
Basically, Rihanna has pretty much lost me as a fan. Between her angry and ridiculous tweets, her terrible grammar and her budding new relationship with Chris, I just can’t stand behind someone who has such an immature way of handling things – and someone who lets an abusive and angry man like Chris Brown off the hook. I’m sure losing one member of the Rihanna Navy won’t affect the singer at all, but I’d rather feel good about the choice of celebs I support, thank you very much.
What do you think about Rihanna and Chris Brown’s relationship? Do you agree or disagree with me? Do you think it’s okay for her to get back together with him? Tell me in the comments.
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I think the world tried to warn karrueche.
In the song they did she coined the phrase “sweeter than a rice cake” and with his intro?
Come on.
It’s petty at this point. He’s playing both of them and, their all not role models to kids or teens. They’ve both SAID this on twitter before.
I think at this point. It’s their life it isn’t bothering me as long as my little cousins, Brice’s and nephews know. What’s right and what’s wrong.
There are absolutely. Not role models.
I thought I was the only one! Seriously, you reprimand her for something that tons of domestic abuse victims do all the time but for some reason, you want to publicly shame her. What you need to do, instead,is post a picture of yourself up there and publicly shame yourself because all that the article proves is that you’re ignorant. Granted, some things that she does such as the racial bashing and slurs are uncalled for, but learn to put things into perspective. I find it funny though, that you’re bashing her yet if it wasn’t someone in the public eye, you would probably be the first person trying to console the victim. I guess it’s true that fame does bring along its own burdens. It just enrages me how hypocritical people can be. This site is supposed to be about “Girl Power” yet instead of trying to help a fellow “girl” who is obviously in need of support, you sit there behind a computer screen and be so judgmental. You need to take this down and instead apologize for your ignorance. Oh yeah, and on top of that, you’re a cyber-bully. At least have the balls to let us see the face behind the computer mask.
yall r reaaallly becoming assholes in this site! Seriously whatever she does is her buisness and quite frankly unless you’ve been in an abusive relationship you have no idea how it feels or why someone decides to go back even if someone is abusing them. So stop being annoying assholes! Seriously this site gets progressively bitchy.
Wow…I totally agree with everything you just wrote
It saddens me that you lost respect for her. Abuse victims go back to their abusers in many cases. What she needs now are friends and family supporting her and to try and get her to see reason. I’ve worked with domestic abuse victims and going back to the abuser is common. Those who care or are a fan can only pray (if they believe) or hope for the best, that she gets help and gets out of the unhealthy relationship.