We’ve all been there: you’re texting the dude you’re crushing on/sort of dating, when he says something totally weird and indecipherable. You sit there reading it over and over again, trying to make sense of his comment. You have no idea whether he’s actually into you… or just straight up blowing you off. So, you do what most of us would do in that situation – you show all of your friends the text and beg them to help you figure out what he means.
But what if you could get more reactions than just those of your sort of biased friends? Like, what if you had hundreds of people read that text just to give you their thoughts on what he’s saying? Wouldn’t that be kind of amazingly helpful?
Enter HeTexted.com, a new dating website that’s pretty much the best/worst idea ever. It’s literally designed for the sole purpose of helping you figure out what a confusing text message means. Here’s how it works: you put the text on the site, add a few sentences of background info and then wait for the response. People can vote on whether “he’s into you”, “he’s not into you” or the “verdict is still out”.
This is a great idea… kind of. It’s awesome because it allows you to get opinions from hundreds of different people. The best part about that is that you don’t know these people. They have nothing invested in your feelings, so they’re able to truly be honest with you in a way that your friends maybe can’t. I mean, let’s face it: even if your BFF thinks your crush’s text obviously means he doesn’t want to hang out with you, is she really going to say that and risk crushing your heart? Or is she going to try to soften the blow by saying something like: “Well, he could mean…”
It’s not that your friend is trying to sabotage you or make you look stupid. She just doesn’t want to be the one to tell you it’s time to move on. It’s easier for her to help you make up excuses as to why he’s too busy to hang the next five weekends than to help you face the reality that maybe he just doesn’t like you that way. But the people voting on your text messages on this website? They’re going to tell you what they think he’s saying without worrying about whether or not your feelings are going to get hurt. And sometimes, when it comes to the tricky world of dating, we could all use that brutal honesty.
While all that is fine and dandy, this website also promotes a kind of obsession that could be really unhealthy. Is it really a good idea to try and decode every single little thing a crush says to you? When you consider the fact that text message conversations are extremely easy to misinterpret (since you can’t see the person’s face or hear their voice), then no, it’s not a good idea.
The other problem is that none of these voters actually know the guy doing the texting. I mean, yes, sometimes it’s totally obvious when a girl is being blown off and she just doesn’t want to face facts. But other times it’s not so obvious. Like I said before, texts are really easy to misinterpret. He could be say one thing, and it might sound super sweet and 400 people might vote that he’s into you – but he could also just be good with words and actually mean something totally different.
When it comes down to it, the best way to know what a text means is to just straight up ask the dude. Yes, that’s an uncomfortable conversation and no one wants to do it. I get that. But it’s also probably the only way you’ll ever really know what he means.
All of that being said, I can’t lie: I’m still going to play around on this website. I mean, it’s fascinating! I don’t blame anyone for wanting to try it out. But I wouldn’t put too much stock into it. You can take the votes into consideration when trying to make a dating decision, but please don’t become obsessed with it.