After you’ve been betrayed, whether it was a friend, family member or boyfriend, revenge can seem so sweet – especially when it comes to a boy who breaks your heart or makes you feel like a fool. Thinking about getting back at that jerk who played you might seem like the best way to deal with things at the time, but is it really?
We saw this topic being discussed in the message boards and we wanted to get more thoughts about this. Would you ever get revenge on an ex? Have you ever? Should this girl try it? Read what she has to say, check out what other girls think and then tell us your opinion.
So I’ve been talking to this guy for months, and we’ve fooled around on video chat and stuff, but we didn’t actually hook up until a few days ago… in my car. We only got to second base. He had been kind of a jerk the whole time before we hooked up, but I just didn’t pay attention to it. Right after he finished, he said “My girlfriend is gonna be so mad if she finds out.” I was speechless. I had no idea he had a girlfriend! I am so mad and feel really bad about myself. What can I do to teach him a lesson?!?!
Be thankful it didn’t go any further, just forget about him. Nothing you can do to him is gonna make the fact that you felt hurt and used go away.
Never talk to him again. That’s the biggest revenge you can give him… anything else is going to make you look silly and immature.
Did you notice that there isn’t any advice on an actual revenge plan? Like slashing his tires or spilling his deepest and darkest secrets to the whole school? That’s because revenge is almost never worth it. If you’ve ever watched a movie or even just the show Revenge, you should know that those kinds of plans usually end up backfiring… even more so in real life.
Girls, revenge isn’t going to make you feel better. Sure, at the moment you might feel really great, thinking you gave that dude what he deserved. But after time, you’ll realize it was the immature thing to do – stooping down to a jerk’s level is never the answer. Like these ladies said, the best revenge is moving on and showing that guy you’re perfectly fine without him. When he sees or hears about you having a great time without him, he’ll feel way more bummed out than he would if you did something terrible to him.
Would you get revenge on an ex? Have you ever gotten revenge on anyone? What advice would you give this girl? Tell us in the comments!