Ask A Guy: Are Guys Really As Shallow As We Think They Are?

Shallow Guys

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Dear Ethan,

Are all guys really as shallow as us girls think they are? For example, do they only care if a girl is hot with a nice body? Do they really only like blonde girls with big boobs? Or is there more to guys then most girls think?

Yes, we men can be shallow brutes – all guys can appreciate a hot bod, and, as I’ve discussed before, many have been known to ogle an ample-chested lady like she was a four-eyed alien.

But not all guys have the same preferences. I’ve also previously written about the fact that the “blonde with big boobs” profile isn’t by any means a universal male predilection. Perhaps certain qualities (e.g. nice legs; an hourglass figure) might be more popular than others (e.g. pretty toenails; a “sexy” forehead), but the truth is that between all of the guys I know, none of them are equally attracted to all of the same qualities their friends are. There’s a guy for every type of girl out there!

The second piece of good news is that most guys do value more than just superficial qualities. Deep down, most guys want to find love, and will only seriously date a girl with a compatible personality. Any guy open to a long-term relationship knows that being able to actually enjoy your girlfriend’s company is just as important as – if not more important than – being physically attracted to her in the first place.

Of course, there are always exceptions. Giving in to his most primitive desires, sometimes a guy might just want to hook up with someone he finds unbearably good-looking. Generally speaking, the more immature and/or inexperienced a guy is, the more he’ll want to get it on with hot babes merely for the sake of getting it on with hot babes. Conversely, the more mature and experienced a guy becomes, the more he’ll tend to value a woman’s disposition, sense of humor, and intelligence.

Just keep this in mind as a final takeaway: no matter what life stage he may be in, any guy who can’t value you as an entire package isn’t worth dating in the first place.

Good luck!

Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. He is also the creator and editor of For more on Ethan, visit…or call his mom, Robin.

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  • maria_25

    my partner asked my cousin if he asked her for a kiss would she kiss him(i wasnt no where around at this time)she told him NO AREN’T U WITH MY COUSIN? and said he was playin.My cousin came back upstairs to tell me about what happened and i was mad… he a player i gotta know!!!!!!

  • Carter

    woah, ethan, are you jewish?

    • Ethan Fixell


  • Selo94

    Thank you for this. I’m glad to see a real guy backing up what I’ve known all along. I have trouble comvincing some girls I know. Most guys are sweethearts, and will value a girl who is kind, smart, and funny just as much as one who’s pretty. I’ve met hundreds of male persons in my life, and dated seven. Of that whole bunch of hundreds I can really say I’ve only met four or five who were complete scum. Guys are fascinating creatures, sometimes every bit as insecure and clueless as girls feel, so give them a chance ;D

    • Ethan Fixell

      Thanks for that! I second the notion.

  • Lolly

    “Hey, guy! Are half the world’s population uniformly shallow?”


    • Daisy

      Nice one. 😀