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I have heard everyone has different feeling orgasms. So, how can I be positive I’ve had one?
ChickRx expert Evelyn Resh, Certified Sexuality Counselor & Nurse-Midwife, says:
You’re very right. Not all orgasms are created equal. Even the same person can have very different feeling orgasms. Some are really mind-blowing. Others feel good, but are no big deal. The differences are related to how tired, scared, drunk, or high or turned-on we are in the first place.
What most women will say about their orgasms is that they feel themselves getting more and more turned-on and as this is happening, they get the sense that they’re moving in the direction of something that will end in a fantastic feeling in their bodies. Once they do orgasm, there’s a feeling of being flooded with amazing physical sensations. Sometimes, there will also be contractions in the pelvis or vagina. These are often rhythmic and make a great feeling even better. Eventually, when this fabulous feeling subsides, a woman will feel really content and calm.
But of course, this isn’t the exact same for everyone. All orgasms are different. What’s most important to remember about all this is that there is no “right way” to have an orgasm. Based on my experience, women know when they have had the big O. My guess is that if you’re not sure, you probably haven’t had one.
My number one suggestion is that if you aren’t sure if the feelings you’ve had are an orgasm, try masturbating. Being alone and able to totally relax will give you more of a chance to experiment. This will give you lots of information about how your body works and you’ll get to know your own orgasmic or non-orgasmic feelings a whole lot better.
How did you know you had a orgasm? Have you ever been unsure? Let me know in the comments.
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I masturbate by running water from the tap onto my clitoris. I put my feet on the wall and just let the water wash on me. It feels good!
However I’m not really sure if I had an orgasm. My vagina feels like it kept opening and closing and I pant, my legs would feel a little tired. Is that an orgasm?
Haha, I do this too..and I’ve had multiple orgasms doing it. I usually like to see how long I can go, how many times I can orgasm before not being able to take it. I find I orgasm easier if I ride something for clitoris stimulation, using water, my fingers roughly, or teasing my vaginal opening.
I was married for 30 years, and every time I moved during sex, in any way that was stimulating or arousing for me, for example, gently moving back and forth, woman on top, my spouse would lose his erection and snap, “Why do you always do what I hate?” If I wanted sex to last for more than five minutes, I had to make sure that I never did anything to piss him off, or he would go limp. After the divorce, some girl friends gave me a vibrator. I cried because I was embarrassed to use it and thought it was perverted. I had no idea that it’s purpose was to produce an orgasm. Having never experienced an orgasm, I did not know what they were, how they felt, what caused them, or even to ever expect to have one. After speaking with my doctor, who encouraged that I at least try, I made several bored attempts, and then one day, discovered the “build up” of sexual tension that leads the body to orgasm. I never once experienced true sexual stimulation during sex with my ex, and never had a build up of pleasure. It’s sad and heartbreaking because it would have been a bonding, happy, intimate, and loving experience to have with a man, and it would have been an emotionally and physically satisfying experience in my life.
I have never had any intercourse,but once ainal and several timse with Finger.
My question is what exactly should happen when a woman reaches Oragasm?
Should she come? I mean the liquid?
I really wanna know if i had any or not?
I have been dating my bf for the past 6 months and we haven’t had sex yet, he has only just fingered me and I do not know if I have orgasmed yet…I literally feel my legs tighten up and they start shaking and I sometimes get this tingling feeling through my entire body, then it reaches a point in the pleasure and then it just disappears.Is this an orgasm? If not, how can i cause Im getting frustrated with myself.
I orgasm when I rub my clit at different speeds. Feels amazing. I’m doing it right now. So horny
Thanks for your comment but I’m not sure that I see the conncetion between your comment and this story. I do not see sex as a sacred act’ but simply as love-making’ that easily leads to male orgasm but less easily to female orgasm.The point of the story is that some women can be quite confident that they experience orgasm with a partner (in this case, the woman’s husband of thirty years) but it is not necessarily the case that they know what orgasm is.The result is that sex surveys can be highly misleading. Women think they orgasm when they don’t. Ignorance is bliss as they say and it is surprising (to me at least) just how confident and outspoken some women can be about something they evidently know nothing about.
Does a womans vagina change after child birth. i know all the easy info.Like does the g spot move ?
I got 3 orgasms by hot tub jets today… Some time i let my lags dangle off the seat, free floating with my pelvic area on the stream of water, sometimes my legs were planted on the seat I put preesure on the water also…I felt sooo good. I got tightness “down there” and started tingling everywhere… Is that a real orgasm?
I think I’ve had an orgasm with my current bf. It was this rush of satisfaction through my body and i wanted to go at it even harder! But I also lied to a guy one time, he thought he was great and bragged for days! sometimes you need lie.
The best way I could describe it (because I was unsure at first too) is this overwhelming feeling of tension (which is not the actual orgasm, but the buildup beforehand) and then this kind of….tingly feeling in the pelvis/legs and just….feeling of tension being released. Sometimes there are abdominal contractions or full body shakes, but usually (for me, anyway) it’s just the feeling of tension being released. When I first tried getting off I was confused by the random leg shakes (I thought that the involuntary movement was an orgasm and was rather disappointed) but then I was informed that the leg shakes (without the tension feeling) are simply a result of direct stimulation of the clitoris.
i get this really good feeling in my vagina is that an orgasm?? it starts like throbbing I guess and then i have to stop masturbating.
I think that with orgasms, the question shouldn’t be: “Was that an orgasm?” It should be: “THAT was an orgasm!”
I’m never too sure if I’ve had an orgasm or not. When I masturbate, after about 10 minutes, I get this feeling that makes me tighten my leg muscles and I don’t want to stop. I feel the build up but I feel I can’t go over the edge. Is what I’m experiencing an orgasm or not?
Why yes you have!
It’s the same for me. I L.O.V.E IT!
I’m not sure if I’ve ever had an orgasm. I think I have, but I can’t be certain. I get this really good feeling that makes me stiffen my legs and I don’t want to stop masturbating, I want to carry on but with more force. Is that an orgasm?
I always have a huge build up and the other night had me literally screaming, I’ve felt the tingly sensation so many times now that it’s hard to tell if I’ve actually orgasmed. Anyway the other night their was final scream, and then I was done I remember opushing my boyfriends hand away and I did feel very calm and content does this mean that I orgasmed?
If you get this energizing centralized wave of pleasure followed by your teeth hurting… then that’s something else.
I’m not sure if I’ve ever had an orgasm. I think I have, but I can’t be certain. I get this really good feeling that makes me stiffen my legs and I don’t want to stop masturbating, I want to carry on but with more force. Is that an orgasm?
I’m pretty sure that’s an orgasm because i get the exact same feeling when I masturbate