On the one hand it seems plain wrong. Even if the reasoning behind it is to have your kids use drugs and alcohol in a safe environment with adult supervision, it still feels like parents are only encouraging their kids to get down with shady stuff. Snoop Dogg is a notorious pothead, I can only imagine that it made marijuana seem like a minor offense to his son. We also can’t forget that all of this is illegal. Weed is illegal for everyone, while alcohol is illegal for minors. Why allow your kids to get into legal trouble? Even if the parent is willing to get alcohol, letting your kids do business with shady drug dealers can make things messy and possibly dangerous.
On the other hand there isn’t a single teenager I know that when told not to do something didn’t do it anyway. No dating? LOL. No sex? Like you’re going to find out? Can’t wear this outfit? I’ll just change at school. Being a teen is essentially being super sneaky. If you’ve told your son or daughter to stop drinking and smoking pot enough times you may have to come to terms with the fact that they are going to do it anyway. Why not protect them from some of the harsher consequences, like drunk driving or binge drinking? A friend of mine would hang out with gross adults in super shady places just to get alcohol. He would binge drink a bunch of hard liquor and get sick. In reality, if it would have been legal he would have gotten a beer and stopped there.
When teenagers really want something they usually figure out how to get it. If getting it and doing it is dangerous, maybe the best solution is to have parental guidance. Telling people not to do something isn’t helpful, it’s the same logic that leads to STDs and pregnancy when all you preach is abstinence. Showing someone how to do something, that may have consequences, responsibly is usually the most effective way to prevent those negative consequences.
Personally, I would never want to drink or do drugs with my parents. It sounds majorly awkward. I also think that even if “cool parents” demand their kids drink and smoke at home only, they would still want to do it without their parents hovering around them. At least, maybe in that case the kids would still be informed on how to handle things. Freshman year of college my roommate’s parents told her, “If you’re going to smoke weed and you have the munchies, be smart about it. Have a banana ready instead of eating a ton of candy. Potassium levels are the first thing to drop when you get high.”
Still, totally awkward.
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