Is not calling or texting a guy for three days after he gives you his number really a good strategy to make a guy really like you? Does playing hard to get in general make guys like you? And what are some other ways to play hard to get?
While the old “three day” rule may be a little bit outdated, playing hard to get can definitely be a good strategy to get a guy interested in you. Guys are generally more intrigued by a girl who is a little mysterious and doesn’t put herself all the way out there than a girl who is really easy to get. In other words, they like a challenge. Think about it: would you like it if a guy who was pursuing you was always around you or available to you all the time? It would probably get a little annoying after a while.
That doesn’t mean that you should start ignoring your crush and giving him the cold shoulder – there’s a fine line between playing hard to get and showing no interest whatsoever. It’s more about showing the guy that you have other things going on besides him than making him think you’re not crushing on him. Personally, I feel like the three day rule is a little extreme and very old-fashioned. Instead of waiting that long (it’s a long time!), I would wait a few hours or at the most a day to give him a call. You’re trying to get him to wonder if you’re actually going to call – essentially making him think of you.
Playing hard to get is all about acting coy and mysterious and giving the guy something to work for. It sounds kind of horrible, but if you’re easy to snag, he might get a little bored (as you might also, if the roles were reversed). When he texts you, maybe wait a little while before texting him back. Don’t always accept his date invitations – if he asks you to go see a movie on a Thursday night, maybe say something like, “Thursday doesn’t work, but what about Saturday?” Don’t always be the one to text or call him first, although that doesn’t mean you can never do it. And when hooking up, make him sweat it out and wait before he gets the goods.
Some things that won’t work? Blowing him off completely multiple times, saying mean things to him, ignoring him when you see him out and acting like you’re dating/talking to someone else. He might try hard for a little bit, but eventually he’s just going to think you’re not into him at all, and he’s going to move on.
But honestly, when it comes to dating, you should never feel like you have to follow a set of rules. Playing hard to get can be fun, but it’s not something you should be completely caught up in. Don’t force yourself to wait exactly two hours before you answer a text (I had a friend who did that with every guy she met) or refuse to accept a date without three days notice (another old rule). It’s not fun when it becomes a chore. I don’t think you should let a guy think he’s the center of your world (he might take advantage of that, whether it’s intentional or not), but I do think you should do what feels right with each dude you meet.
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