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That’s how I’d love to introduce myself. I normally stop after saying my name, but I wish I could say the rest. You see, I hate being touched. Weird, right?
It’s just how I am. I don’t like being hugged, kissed on the cheek or even shaking hands. I never have and I’m going to guess, I never will.
Just so you don’t think I’m a total cold-hearted freak, I’ll let you know there is one caveat. I do like when someone I’m dating touches me. But that’s rare. Very, very rare. When I’m out on a date with a guy and he holds my hand or grazes my shoulder and I don’t automatically shutter and flinch, that’s when I know I really like him. Aside from those few select dudes that pass my touch test, I’d like everyone else to back off.
It’s not that I’m afraid of germs or think people are dirty. I don’t like being touched because it feels way too intimate to me. It’s like my brain is all, “This body is mine. Everyone else, hands off the merch!” I know it doesn’t make much sense, but it’s how I really feel. And apparently, I’m the only one. It seems like everyone else loves touching each other.
Strangers will hug me when they meet me and old friends kiss me on the cheek to say hi. What ever happened to a good old fashioned personal space respecting wave? Seriously, when did that stop being enough?
I’ve learned to manage my touch-phobia and can generally act like a normal person in high touch situations. Just this week I kissed my friend’s mom on the cheek when I said hello and hugged another friend’s boyfriend when she introduced us. And in both situations, I think I managed to look like my skin wasn’t crawling. But, it was.
Sometimes people call me out on it. Every once in a while I’ll hear, “Julie, you’re not going to hug me?” or “Come on, hug me like you mean it.” And instead of explaining that I’d rather be raked over hot coals while listening to spoken-word poetry, I just go in for the hug. There’s no real way to explain my touching thing without offending my friends or making myself sound like a royal freak. I guess I could just send them a link to this article now.
I’m wondering, am I really alone in this touch thing? Anyone else out there not want to be touched? Let me know in the comments if you think this is beyond weird or if you relate.
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I don’t mind when people I know touch me, like my family or some of my friends, but I hate it when my soccer coach touches my shoulder. I just try to back away, or put my hand on my hip to keep him farther away, but he just inches closer every time I step away. I start shaking, breathing hard and getting very nervous. Then when I go on the field I don’t play as well as I should.
I’m the same way! I hate when people touch me. Like you I have a select few people I tolerate it from. I think its normal. It is your body.
I feel the same way. It’s not like I’m afraid of people; all the casual touching just makes me uncomfortable. I hadn’t told anyone until this year about it, besides my mom, who has the exact same issues with people as I do. Eventually, I become OK with touching certain people (such as one of my overenthusiastic, very excitable roommates), but I finally toughened up and told them. They looked at me funny, and I didn’t want them to make a big deal out of it (which they kind of do), but I find it nice that my excitable roommate will now ask me if a hug would make me feel better or worse, or she’ll give me a look and I’ll be like, “Okay. I could handle a hug.”
Strangers, on the other hand, and some of my family gets really offended. It’s unfortunate. But at least they don’t touch me.
I was told that I didn’t even want to get milk from my mom when I was first born! Then, I was adopted and HATED when my mom kissed me. So wet, sloppy, stinky and DISGUSTING! Then, she was so needy that when she hugged me, she squeezed me so tight it hurt. I don’t believe that some people display forms of affection to express their live for you, but more of a display of how emotionally needy they are at the other persons expense. I hate being kissed unless its a boyfriend…even then, he better brush his teeth! I have a lot of friends in France that give you a Bissau when they greet…and yes, it’s uncomfortable, but its over quick and is hopefully dry.
Old ladies kissing me ANYWHERE is not cool. I seriously hate being kissed if its not a boyfriend!
I know how you feel im 15and I hate being touched but idk why