I was in a relationship for three years, and it ended four months ago. The reason it ended was because my boyfriend cheated on me with another girl. He was sleeping with her for almost three months before I found out.
Four months have passed, and he is still begging me for forgiveness and another chance to make things right. Should I believe him? Should I give him another chance? I’m soooo confused. Help!
I can’t tell you what decision to make here, but I can give you a little bit of guidance. I’m not going to lie, taking back a boyfriend who has cheated on you can be super difficult. Once someone you love has broken your trust and betrayed you, it can be really hard emotionally to give them another chance. It’s definitely something you need to put a lot of thought into.
Ask yourself these questions: Are you really ready to forgive your ex? Are you ready to rebuild the trust you once had in him? Are you still angry at him for what he did? Has he done anything to prove to you that he deserves to earn your trust back?
Even though it’s been four months, it’s totally fine to still be mad at him or to still feel really hurt. If you’re still holding onto to those angry feelings, you have two choices: continue to be mad and stay away from him, or put the past behind you and move forward. There’s no right or wrong answer – you have to go with your gut.
Keep in mind that relationships are built on trust and loyalty. If you feel like trusting your ex is impossible, then there’s no point in getting back together with him. If you feel like it’s possible in the future, then give yourself time and let him know he’s going to have to work to earn your forgiveness and trust.
It’s okay to take back a cheater in some scenarios. However, in this case and in my opinion, this dude isn’t worth your time. He made the decision to go behind your back for months at a time. He lied to you for a long time, and there’s a huge chance he’ll do it again. Unless he proves that he’s going to change, you shouldn’t waste your time.
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