If you’re wondering what the perfect number of sex partners is, fear not! A new study has your answer.
A survey on SeekingArrangement.com, which is essentially a sugar daddy dating website, asked 1,000 users what their ideal number of sex partners is, and the number was a “perfect 10.” Apparently if you bone fewer than 10 people, you’re seen as inexperienced and likely to be crappy in bed, while anything higher than that means you’re promiscuous and that people will supposedly look down on you. According to the study, men were harsher on promiscuity than women were. (Big surprise in a world where Rush Limbaugh thinks that the more sex you have, the more birth control pills you need. Sorry bro, it’s a lot different from cholesterol pill dosage . . . but we digress.)
So, just to reiterate: A sugar daddy website polled a few people to ask what the acceptable or average number of partners is, and now apparently anyone (especially females!) who’s slept with more than 10 people is an undesirable slut, and anyone who hasn’t is a prude with no boudoir skills whatsoever. And that’s supposed to matter to us.
Guess what? It doesn’t. And it shouldn’t.
Your “number” is your business. As long as you’ve got a clean bill of health and you and your partner or partners (whatever floats your boat, girl!) are all on the same page, the number of sex partners you’ve had in your life is no one’s business but your own. Whether you’ve slept with one or 100 people, that’s your business and not a survey’s, a guy’s, or anyone else’s. If anyone asks, you are not obligated to tell them, nor are they obligated to tell you their own.
There’s a lot more that goes into choosing sex partners than how many other sex partners someone has had. Trust, attraction, an emotional connection, and some degree of comfort are all a lot more important than a tally of notches in a bedpost, and having a ton of experience doesn’t necessarily mean someone is good at something, and doing something once doesn’t mean you’re not amazing at it. Don’t believe me? Think of it this way: I had to retake algebra a few times, because guess what? I suck at algebra. As a result, I have a lot of experience with algebra, but I still suck at algebra. However, the first time I had to do pullups in gym class, I friggin’ killed it. I don’t do pullups often, though, because, well, I don’t enjoy them that much.
Just because someone has knocked boots with 42 partners doesn’t mean they’re better in bed than someone who’s still a virgin and hasn’t met the right person to wow just yet. And anyone who judges you based on your sexual experience or inexperience probably isn’t someone you’d want to hop into bed with in the first place, because really–if they’re going to get all pissy over a number, how are you going to be able to have a normal discussion about what you’re into? If someone is uptight about the number of sex partners you have or haven’t had, they’re likely the ones to be bad in the sack and people you want to avoid.
Do you think your number of sex partners is a big deal? Do you think there’s an ideal number of sex partners? Would a guy or girl’s number of partners influence whether or not you sleep with them? Tell us in the comments!