After rumors hit that Taylor Swift was considering eloping with Conor Kennedy, we all began to worry that T-Swizzle may be getting way too serious way too fast with her new boytoy (and we do mean “boy”–he’s only 18!). That never ends well, girl!

Taylor Swift and Conor Kennedy are way too young to think about getting married in our opinion–and unlike the case of Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth, they haven’t even been together that long. Here’s why buying a house near his (for real, Tay?!) and getting too serious too fast are bad ideas, not just for country-pop crossover starlets, but also for the rest of us.

1. You may end up settling.
It’s easy to get caught up when you really like a new guy, but when you get too serious too fast, you may not even realize that this person isn’t the best guy for you. If you leave your options open for at least a little while, you’ll more likely make a better decision and have a longer-lasting, more satisfying relationship. And Taylor Swift, while a true romantic, isn’t known for the longevity of her relationships.

2. You may get hurt.
Any relationship poses a risk, but getting too serious too fast is generally a recipe for a broken heart for at least one of you. Often when you fall fast, you fall hard–and things often fizzle out as quickly as they began if you don’t get to know each other and make a good decision before you take a plunge into a serious relationship.

3. You may feel pressured to move too fast sexually.
If you get too serious too fast, you may feel pressured to go further than you’re comfortable with sexually, and that’s never good. Just because you and a guy are in a committed relationship, it doesn’t mean you have to move fast everywhere else, but there can be more pressure to do just that. If a guy urges you to move faster than you’re comfortable with, you have to rethink his motives for getting serious, right?

4. You may have unrealistic expectations.
Taylor Swift sings about fairy tales. She’s 22. While happy endings and picket fences are nice, they’re rare, especially when you’re so young. Then when one little thing goes wrong, it can seem like the end of the world, because if you get too serious too soon, you can have an almost impossible vision of the perfect relationship.

5. You can piss off the people closest to you.
When Taylor Swift and Conor Kennedy crashed a cousin’s wedding, the whole family–and the rest of the world–weren’t pleased. Just because you’re head over heels for your new boo doesn’t mean that you can be inconsiderate to the people who were there before you guys got serious. Just because you want to show them off doesn’t mean everyone else wants to see them, so don’t blow off your friends so quickly for a guy or invite him to everything. You need your own life!

6. You may overlook his douchier qualities.
If you get too serious too soon, often you have sort of rose-colored glasses on in terms of what kind of a person this guy is–and when he starts showing his true colors, you may be inclined to look past a lot of red flags that you wouldn’t have if you didn’t commit so soon.

7. You may be missing out on someone better. . .
If you commit too soon to someone, you may be missing out not just on the fun of playing the field, but also of the potential of finding someone better suited for you. What a waste of time!

8. . . . And that may lead to temptation.
When you get too serious too fast, you both may be tempted to cheat, because you may feel bored and deprived of everything else you’re missing. And that’s never good!

9. There’s a lot of potential for jealousy.
If you’re both so impulsive as to get serious really quickly, you both may be a little paranoid that the other may do the same with someone else.

10. You might not necessarily get a hit album out of it.
Sure, Taylor Swift got a massive hit already with “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together” (which is rumored to be about her blink-and-you’ll-miss-it relaysh with Jake Gyllenhaal), but most of us aren’t that lucky–and all we get is drama, headaches, and more drama!

Do you think Taylor Swift and Conor Kennedy are getting too serious too fast? Do you think Taylor Swift and Conor Kennedy should slow it down? Have you ever gotten too serious with a guy too fast? Tell us in the comments!

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