Rape, and of course the ridiculous notion of “legitimate” rape, have been in the news a ton lately–and the people speaking up the loudest on the issue (as usual) are women and girls. I guess that’s because it’s women and girls who are most often the ones who experience rape, but I’ve always wondered where are the dudes in this conversation? I mean, if men are the ones most often committing rape (and they are), then isn’t it men who can be the most effective at stopping it by say . . . knowing when to stop and not raping people?!
And when it is men doing the talking, we so often just hear them say that girls shouldn’t get drunk, wear short skirts, walk around after dark by themselves, etc. etc. etc. because they should know that they’re putting themselves in harm’s way. EYEROLL. What about maybe addressing men and taking the “harm” out of the equation?
Finally, though, I think we’re seeing a little progress in this area. A kick ass campaign called My Strength (put together by the California Coalition Against Sexual Assault) is busting out all over the web with anti-violence and anti-rape messaging aimed at the people who need it the most: dudes! The message is that strong men don’t take advantage of girls who are drunk. Strong men listen–and know when to stop! Strong men never think a girl owes them anything. The campaign is sexy and smart and will hopefully get a lot of guys thinking about what kind of man they want to be. Here at Gurl, we freaking LOVE men–specifically strong men who respect girls and women.
Check out these posters for their campaign and think about sharing them on your Facebook wall, too. Let’s be honest here–who couldn’t use a few more strong men in their lives?
What do you think about this campaign? Do you think it’s true that strong men know when to stop? Are you going to post one of these posters to your Facebook wall? Tell us in the comments!