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I don’t know what to do. We’ve been talking about sex, but I don’t know if it’s a good idea. Should I stop talking to him and find someone better? I really want to hook up with him, but I don’t know if I can. But if I do, maybe he’ll break up with his GF and be with me instead. What do I do?!
Oh, girl. Run, don’t walk, away from this dude. I know that’s probably not what you want to hear, but I’m telling you the truth for your own good. Hooking up with a guy who already has a girlfriend will bring you nothing but trouble and heartache. The best thing for you to do here is get over this guy and get him out of your life, plain and simple.
I’m not judging you for having feelings for someone else’s boyfriend. Sometimes these things happen, and we can’t always help who we fall for. However, the right thing to do in this situation is to stop talking to this guy. Think about it this way: how would you feel if your boyfriend was cheating on you? Probably not that great. Since this is something I’m sure you wouldn’t want to happen to you, you shouldn’t be doing it to someone else.
And I’m going to be pretty honest right now… this dude sounds like a total jerk. He’s stringing along both you and his girlfriend, and he’s lying to both of you. That’s not cool! If he has feelings for you, or any other girl for that matter, he needs to break up with his girlfriend. And if he’s doing this with you, I’m assuming that he’s probably doing it with other girls also. Ugh.
I know you feel like he might finally end things with his GF if you sleep with him, but I can almost promise you that that won’t happen. If he really and truly wanted to be with you, he would have broken up with her already. As hard as that is to hear, it’s true. Do you really want to be his side chick? You’re better than that! You deserve a guy who will give you all of his attention all the time – not a guy who can’t make up his mind and is totally selfish.
The bottom line is that hooking up with someone in a relationship is just never a good idea. I know you’ve liked this guy for a while, but having sex with him is most likely going to leave you hurt and feeling lonely. Even if he does break up with his GF to be with you, what makes you think he won’t try to cheat on you also? Cut your losses and move on – it’s the best thing for you.
take care,
Heather
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I think you are not dating him! you are cheating with him! shake your head! this guy is no more your b/f than he is the other one’s… you have caught yourself a player. what are you confused about?
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Hell no! If he cheats with you if you get with him he will cheat on you too.
He is definitely not for you.. I’ve been with a guy that had a gf but I was just doing it for the good sex he obviously was not satisfied with his gf and I was satisfying him so was I satisfying my self didnt have to deal with the relationship problems but I was sure having fun I know it might sound bad and I’m not proud of what I did but I always had cleared if he was with his gf was bcuz he had feeling 4 her and it never crossed my mind 2 date him or want him as a bf bcuz he was going 2 do the same 2 me
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If he cheated on his girlfriend, he will cheat on you too. And who knows how many side chicks he has?
Willing to cheat for you, willing to cheat on you. I should know someone cheated on their girlfriend with me and he cheated on me with a completely different girl. Don’t go there, it hurts and will get you a bad reputation too.
I would never. As someone who’s been cheated on – my boyfriend slept with his ex girlfriend while he was with me – I know how terrible a thing it is for everyone. In my case, it was a one time thing as far as I know and he destroyed himself over what he did. He hurt me, and it hurt the other girl because she was in lvoe with him and now all she’ll ever be is a reminder to him of his mistake.
It’s just plain a bad idea. A cheater is a cheater is a cheater. They are cowards.
I totally agree. If their doing things with you while dating another girl get over him and don’t regret it. He will do it to you eventually.