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Getting married is a big deal. I know that nowadays people get divorced like it’s nothing, but it’s not nothing! Promising to spend your life with one person should never be taken lightly. That being said, should young people be getting married? Is there such a thing as too young for marriage?
We saw this question in our message boards and wanted to get an idea of how you guys felt about it. How young is too young to get engaged? Should you wait until your older to put a ring on your finger? Read what these girls had to say and then let us know your opinion in the comments.
emolover94 said:
I’m 18 and my wonderful boyfriend is 21. We have faced so much together – you name it, we’ve been through it, and we’ve pulled through so much stronger for it. When we’re together it’s like nothing else matters. For the first time in my life I feel whole. The way I feel for him is so different from the way I’ve felt towards anyone else in the past. I love him with every fiber of my being, and I know that some day I will be his wife.
We’ve talked a lot about engagement. We both want it very much. He told me he’s planning on asking my father for my hand sometime between January and when he graduates in May. I’ll be 19 then and he’ll be 22, which doesn’t seem too bad to me. I want to be his forever. I’ve never been so sure of anything in my life. So this isn’t me questioning my relationship or its possible future. I’m just really curious to see what you girls think. Do you think we’re too young to be settling down, or do you think it’s okay?
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RainingAshes said:
Ultimately it is your decision. My mother was 19 and my father was 25 when they got married. They have been together ever since, 18 years. Really it depends on you and your man. But personally I do not think 19 is too young to be married.
hotjamale said:
To be perfectly honest, I do think that is too young to be engaged. You are both at stages of your life where you’re still going to change so much. I’m not doubting your love at all, but it sounds like you are both still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship. One of my best friends has been with a guy for 2 years, and she used to be convinced they were going to get married, have kids and be together forever. Then their honeymoon phase ended. Now she is not so sure, and while she still loves him, she realized she hasn’t been with him for long enough to know. Of course, only you know what you want and if you want to marry young, go for it!
Like I said before, getting engaged isn’t something that should be taken lightly. It’s a huge step in your life and is something that could change everything for you. It’s not something to jump into. You have your whole life to spend with your dream guy and to be a wife. At 19-years-old, you still have a lot of growing and changing to do. Don’t tie yourself down before you finish growing as a person.
What this really comes down to, though, is doing what you think is best for you. There are definitely plenty of marriages out there that started at a young age and they’re still going strong. I’m not saying it can’t happen! All I’m saying is that this is something you need to put a lot of thought and time into before doing. Make sure you’re ready before you take this next step.
What do you think – is 19 too young to get engaged? What age is too young to get engaged? Would you get engaged at a young age? Are you already married? Tell us in the comments.
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This is a fantastic view of the situation; I don’t think I’ve quite seen it from that perspective before. regards
i think at 16 you are too too young to get married
i think no just because you can always wait and make sure its perfect and that special day will only be better the longer you have been together but i say no. now you must know that this is my opionin because my parents had a bad divorce and i wouldnt wish my greatest enemys to deal with the stuff i had to go through so if you ever had kids and your relationship wasnt set in stone and perfect then there could be a possiblilty that they would have to deal with that
i think the age that is too young to be engaged is 11-14. Once you hit ages 15-adult, sparks fly faster and at that point anything can happen. And ften in your teen years promise rings are okay. 11-13 candy rings and treausures are ok and seem romantic to children their age. When you hit your teen years, 14 and up, then things get a bit more complicated and serious. I am 141/2 i will be 15 in october a month and a couple of days from now. I am single. Being engaged hasn’t really occured in my mind.
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are too young! 4 things that you must do\have before you get married:
1) Date for atleast 2 steady years
2) Make sure you can support yourself without your boyfriend
3) Finish college
4) Have atleast 5,000$ in the bank that you will not need for atleast a year
It really depends on who you are: everybody is different. For some people, they know right away and feel comfortable getting married. For others, it takes a while for them to know what is right and so they get married later in life. Both are perfectly acceptable.
One of my teacher’s parents are actually a great example of people who “knew it was right”. They were both very young (18) when they got on a boat to immigrate to Canada. Neither of them spoke the same language as the other (one spoke French and the other English) but when they met, they had an instant connection. They got married the same day that they met, on the boat, and have been happily married for more than 40 years.
I’m 18 he is 23. You know. If you don’t then don’t.
Age aint nothing but a number , no I dont think you have to be a certain age to get married as long the love is there and its REAL yesss girl GO FOR IT! And you shouldn’t care what other people think of this at the end of the day it depends on how u feel !
Buttt , I do think yall have to KNOW each other for some time because most time you may think you know a person but you dont know everything ( everything you need to know nonetheless ) and you dont wanna be left with a broken heart it hurts LITERALLY , anywhoo goodluck with everything hunn (:
that is really inspiring. And that’s true! I agree with you.
I don’t think age matters but how you truly feel does. My parents were fifteen when they first met and my mom never gave my dad a chance when they lived in Guatemala. Years later when they found each other again in New York, after three months of dating they got married and are still together after 19 years. All that matters is your feelings for each other.
my mom was 19 and my dad 29 when they married..
I dont think getting married should be based on age. I got engaged when I was 19 years old. I can say I was way more prepared for marriage then some people in their 30s. Its all based on where you are at in life, who you both are, maturity, and understanding. Getting married young is hard work because you still are changing and you have to how to have a give and take relationship. I got engaged at 19 and was engaged for two years before getting married. I really liked having that two years to grow as a couple and mature. I would not change getting married young for anything! I love my life! However, you will face many hardships being so young and you have to have an understanding of that if you plan of getting married young. Hope this helps!
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