Getting married is a big deal. I know that nowadays people get divorced like it’s nothing, but it’s not nothing! Promising to spend your life with one person should never be taken lightly. That being said, should young people be getting married? Is there such a thing as too young for marriage?
We saw this question in our message boards and wanted to get an idea of how you guys felt about it. How young is too young to get engaged? Should you wait until your older to put a ring on your finger? Read what these girls had to say and then let us know your opinion in the comments.
I’m 18 and my wonderful boyfriend is 21. We have faced so much together – you name it, we’ve been through it, and we’ve pulled through so much stronger for it. When we’re together it’s like nothing else matters. For the first time in my life I feel whole. The way I feel for him is so different from the way I’ve felt towards anyone else in the past. I love him with every fiber of my being, and I know that some day I will be his wife.
We’ve talked a lot about engagement. We both want it very much. He told me he’s planning on asking my father for my hand sometime between January and when he graduates in May. I’ll be 19 then and he’ll be 22, which doesn’t seem too bad to me. I want to be his forever. I’ve never been so sure of anything in my life. So this isn’t me questioning my relationship or its possible future. I’m just really curious to see what you girls think. Do you think we’re too young to be settling down, or do you think it’s okay?
Ultimately it is your decision. My mother was 19 and my father was 25 when they got married. They have been together ever since, 18 years. Really it depends on you and your man. But personally I do not think 19 is too young to be married.
To be perfectly honest, I do think that is too young to be engaged. You are both at stages of your life where you’re still going to change so much. I’m not doubting your love at all, but it sounds like you are both still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship. One of my best friends has been with a guy for 2 years, and she used to be convinced they were going to get married, have kids and be together forever. Then their honeymoon phase ended. Now she is not so sure, and while she still loves him, she realized she hasn’t been with him for long enough to know. Of course, only you know what you want and if you want to marry young, go for it!
Like I said before, getting engaged isn’t something that should be taken lightly. It’s a huge step in your life and is something that could change everything for you. It’s not something to jump into. You have your whole life to spend with your dream guy and to be a wife. At 19-years-old, you still have a lot of growing and changing to do. Don’t tie yourself down before you finish growing as a person.
What this really comes down to, though, is doing what you think is best for you. There are definitely plenty of marriages out there that started at a young age and they’re still going strong. I’m not saying it can’t happen! All I’m saying is that this is something you need to put a lot of thought and time into before doing. Make sure you’re ready before you take this next step.
What do you think – is 19 too young to get engaged? What age is too young to get engaged? Would you get engaged at a young age? Are you already married? Tell us in the comments.