Think You’re Pregnant? Here’s What To Do

pregnancy scares are frightening

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Your period is late. You feel nauseous and you’re craving Twizzlers. You hate Twizzlers! Your boobies feel tender. Could you be… pregnant?

Sure, you watch shows like “Teen Mom” and “16 and Pregnant” but you never had any intention of living them! You try to get info online but it’s WAY overwhelming. You’re scared and confused. What now?!

The fact is, if you have had sexual intercourse, genitals-to-genitals contact or if your guy has ejaculated anywhere in the vicinity of your vaginal area, you may be pregnant. No contraception is 100 percent effective. It doesn’t matter if it was the first time you had sex or the tenth time. You can also still get pregnant even if you don’t have regular periods yet.

But when you think you might be pregnant, it can be hard to think straight and figure out what to do. Here’s your emergency cheat sheet, girl. You can thank me later (when you’re not freaking out as much):

1. Take a deep breath.
Calm down. Worrying won’t help. You need to find out if you’re really pregnant. A missed period could be due to excessive physical activity, poor nutrition, stress or your cycle just being irregular.

2. Be sure.
Either get to a doctor or buy two home pregnancy tests. Costs may range from $8 to $16. Follow the directions carefully and confirm your results with the second test. You might want to have a trusted friend or your partner with you for support when you take the test, but that’s really up to you.

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3. Talk to Mom
Talking to your mom about a pregnancy scare is . . . scary, but it can really help you out. If you are pregnant, she can help you work through the decision making process and figure out what to do next. If you’re not pregnant, she can help get you on the best birth control to keep you from getting pregnant in the future. Do not text or email her. The best way to have a conversation of this magnitude (it’s pretty big) is face to face. If you’re really nervous, practice what you’re going to say in the mirror first. If you have two parents you may tell them together or tell the parent you feel safest with first.

Try to remember that no matter how your mom or dad reacts, they are almost definitely coming from a place of love. If they freak out it’s only because they want you to be happy and know this is a hard thing to go through.

4. Know your options.
If you are pregnant, you now have a potentially life-changing decision to make. Beating up on yourself won’t help. You’re not a bad person. Think carefully about what YOU want to do. No matter what, DON’T go through this by yourself. Talk to your boyfriend, best friend or a close family member.

Your options are (a) becoming a mom, (b) terminating the pregnancy or (c) adoption. No matter what your choice is, if you are pregnant you will need medical attention.

Remember, whatever you decide to do with your body is your choice. I shared my own experience with an unplanned pregnancy here. And no matter what, I have faith in you. Everything will be okay. You are not alone.

Have you ever had a pregnancy scare? Has a friend ever thought she was pregnant and told you about it? Tell us how you dealt in the comments!

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  • Cynthia Perez

    Me & my boyfriend are both virgins ,but we fool around (sexually) ,the last time we fooled around he cummed on my vagina ,I’m scared I might b pregnant ,…. Is it possible when tho I’m still a virgin ???

    Please help!!!

  • Worried Sick

    Please help!
    I’m terrified. I had sex on February 10th unprotected. He did not ejaculate inside of me. However it was in the genital area. My boobs are sore. No spotting, and no other symptoms. It could just be PMS. My boobs are always sore before my period, and my period is coming up soon (I HOPE). I took 2 at home pregnancy tests, I did not follow the directions exactly as supposed to. I drank water before hand and it was in the evening. I saw a very very very faint line on one and the other I really can’t tell, but I know I messed that one up.

    Of course, I went on a Googling spree and kept reading “There is no false accurate, a line no matter how faint is still a line, you pregnant congratulations.”

    Well, I’m on the verge of a heart attack reading that. Has anyone else seen a very faint line, and not been pregnant? I know I can’t know anything for sure until by missed period, but my anxiety is killing me. I’m literally writing this at 4 am because my heart is pounding so hard I can’t sleep. I’m not physically able to have a child. I will die because I have a lymphangioma tumor. Any advice or help would be such a relief to me.

  • Jenna

    I’m so scared. Me and my boyfriend sorta had sex 2 days ago he didn’t break my hymen but he put his penis inside me and I had given him a blowj*b like 5 minutes before so there might still have been c*m on his penis when he went inside me .. He didn’t break the hymen but I think he irritated it … This morning I was spotting I had brownish discharge but only a little and cramps .. They weren’t horrible but they were weird cramps like something was contracting inside me .. But last night he fingered me and I felt him kind of hit my hymen and it hurt but it didn’t break so maybe the spotting was from that? And the cramps might be from the hymen thing too? Help … I’m 16 and I know it’s wrong and I’m too young but I’m scared

  • Michelle Summers

    my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex the day after my period finished and then had sex again but with a condom one of the days I was fertile. I don’t have any early signs of pregnancy but that was only last week. I’m petrified and I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend and I have talked about what we would do if I got pregnant but I’m only 16.. I’m scared out of my mind and it’s still early to take a pregnancy test but I don’t know what to do. What should I do?

  • Abbie

    I am so scared, i had sex with my boyfriend 8 days ago and my stomach has been cramping for the last 3 days. i havent spotted, my breasts dont feel sore, ive eaten less because of the pain, basically everything has been normal except my stomach. he didnt cum inside me but i do know that precum can get you pregnant. im not sure if its just the stress getting to me or i’m actually pregnant and the symptoms are just coming late. my period is due in like two weeks, i had my period around march 1st to march 3rd. and i had sex on the 15th. please help. i cant get pregnant.

    • Tia

      did you ever get pregnant? I’m experiencing the same exact thing…

  • jessica

    Im about to turn 14 and had sex with my boydriend unprotected and I am frecking out and dont knoe what to do he was only in for about 1 minute or less and he didnt cum in me but I am still scared soneone please help me :\

  • Cecilia

    I’m having the worst time at the moment – my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex for literally about 10 seconds before we both freaked out when we realised what we were doing, so he definitely didn’t ejaculate inside me or anything, but still my period was due today and it hasn’t come, and I’m having all the pregnancy symptoms like spotting and whitish fluid, and my breasts are tender, and I’m freaking out – I cannot cope with anything like this at the moment. Am I worrying too much? Should I be panicking more? Please, if you have any advice for me, please let me know.

  • panda bear

    i am having one right now my boyfriend came over and we were on the bed and im worried that if i lay on the bed ill still get pregnant but im also scared cuz i touched it and i went to the bathroom afterwards and it could still be on me and im freaking out so bad please help me! also it could still be on my pants cus we were wearing clothes sort of im too young to be going through this im only 14!

  • Ella May

    Honestly, I’m petrified.
    Life recently hasn’t been the easiest. Im 18 and thought I was going out with an 24 year old, fine in my books. Then I find out he’s lied to me and he’s 35, I told him we’d give it a shot as I fell for him not his age. I was mature about it told my family who are coming to terms with it and have been nothing but open. All of this in the space of a week, and now I suddenly realise im two weeks late. All pregnancy symptoms are basically what I experience anyhow before I’m due on and Im thinking it could just be stress that has made me late. But truth is, I can’t deal with finding out for sure, my boyfriend is financially stable and could provide this baby with everything it needs, however I couldn’t and I cant depend fully upon him. I disagree with abortion and I know I don’t have it in me give my baby away. I know Im acting childish and should just find out, but I need someone to talk too. feeling alone and confused 🙁

  • Niajah Bennett

    I had unprotected sex last Friday with my boyfriend he did ejaculate I was highly fertile and I’m freaking out I’m suppose to come on my period next week but I’m still freaking out