I am tired of being single and I want to be in a relationship. The only problem is that I don’t know how to make a boy be interested in me. I’m not a glam girl…just a simple girl. I’m so tired of being single and I desperately want a good boyfriend. Please, please help me Heather!
Here’s the thing, girl: I can’t really help you find a boyfriend. Unfortunately, there isn’t a store full of perfect boyfriends where you can pick and choose what you want (although how great would it be if there were?!). Finding a boyfriend has nothing to do with being glamorous or looking a certain way – it has to do with finding a guy who you click with. Sometimes it just takes a while to find that, and that’s perfectly normal.
However, there are a few tips I can give you. The most important tip? Don’t be afraid to talk to guys! I know that boys can seem super scary (especially that one you’re crushing on), but I promise that the majority of them are easy to talk to. Maybe you can’t talk to dudes exactly how you talk to your girlfriends, but you can still joke around with them or complain about the latest homework assignment. Find a common interest you have with your crush (you both like the same band? Perfect!) and talk to him about it.
You just need to put yourself out there. You can pretty much meet a guy anywhere (I met my boyfriend in the parking lot of a market, okay?), so just be friendly and open to meeting new people. Go out with your friends to the mall, the movies, a fair…whatever. Don’t be afraid to make eye contact with a cute guy, laugh at a joke you overhear some dude telling his friends or just start up a conversation about something totally random. In case you haven’t heard, guys absolutely love confidence in a girl. From what I hear, it’s what attracts them the most. Be yourself and show guys just how awesome you really are.
But listen up, girl: you should never spend every minute of your life searching for a boyfriend. One, that’s never going to make you happy and two, it doesn’t work that way. If all you do is think about how much you want a BF, you’re never going to have any fun and you might even ending up scaring off a few guys. Relax, go out and do the things that make you happy. Don’t think about a potential boyfriend whenever you meet a guy. As lame as this might sound, you usually meet the perfect guy when you least expect it.
Please don’t spend all of your time stressing over being single. Sure, having a boyfriend can be great. But guess what? Being single can be just as great. I promise! There’s absolutely no reason to rush into any kind of relationship. If it happens, it happens, and that’s awesome! But never settle for less than you deserve or for a dude you don’t even like that much just so that you can change your relationship status on Facebook. Your life is about so much more than being someone’s girlfriend.
What’s on your mind? Heather can help! Send her your question at firstname.lastname@example.org