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Although, she is making it pretty clear that she wears makeup for her hubby. It’s one thing if a guy appreciates it when you dress up for him, but where do we draw the line between appreciation and trophy?
Jessica Biel admitted that her fiance Justin Timberlake sometimes changes her outfits.”We both really love fashion. There are definitely moments where I’ll come out in an outfit and he’ll give me that look! He’ll take me back into the closet and I’ll change my shoes and I’m like, ‘Yeah, this is way better.’ Sometimes I won’t change.”
I’m not going to pretend I know the intimate details of either of these couple’s personal lives, but the statements do stir up an interesting topic. How much would you let your BF or GF weigh in on what you have to wear? When does is start to feel like too much?
If you ask for fashion advice, then I say it’s fair game. However, I think lots of guys and girls are guilty of trying to change their sweetie’s appearance a bit too much.
A bad hair cut here, a pair of sweatpants there and all of a sudden you’re going shopping together and the person you’re dating is vetoing everything you like and making you try on things you would never wear.
In some ways, it’s almost understandable. The person you’re dating is like an ambassador of who you are. When my friends have dated douchebags, I’m not going to lie, it made me think of them differently. Although, it’s one thing when someone has a bad attitude and another when you don’t like how they look.
What difference does it make if the whole world finds your partner desirable if you find them desirable? You’re the one who is dating them. I once knew a girl who’s boyfriend demanded that she wear a matching bra and panties, that she straightened her wavy hair when they went out, and that she always wear makeup. My cousin was a straight up baggy jeans, baseball cap wearing tomboy until she found out the boy she liked only dated “girly girls”. She was all dresses after that.
On the flip side I’ve known a couple of girls whose boyfriends wouldn’t allow them to wear anything but sweatpants because they didn’t want other guys looking at them. Both situations are just examples of insecure dudes trying to control their girlfriend’s appearance because they need the world to see them in a certain way. But even a comment here and there can make someone feel self-conscious.
What do you think? Would you ever try to change someone’s appearance? Would you ever change your appearance for someone you liked? Let us know in the comments!
GAHH So Happy!
to be honest, mi novio and i are long distance, but we are making it work. i got a perm last weekend and this whole past week i’ve been fretting about what he would think of it. He said i look pretty either way. the other day we were skyping and he cut me short and asked if i was wearing make-up, that was the one day that week i didnt wear make-up. i love that he thinks im pretty with my wet curly hair and a pair of sweats on, just chillin’ and talkin to him. when you have un muchacho like that, you know you have somethin special <3
My ex boyfriend tried to change me all the time, whether it was my hair or piercings/tattoos he always wanted a say. The same goes with my eye glasses/ contacts, he was never happy with how I looked.
I think the story about Jessica Biel worries me a little more than Gwen Stefani. I think a guy trying to tell you what to wear can appear to be a little controlling. I mean I understand if maybe your guy just wants you to look hygenic and well groomed, I’m taking basic care not a supermodel. At the same time girls, totally do this to guys, get them to dress better. I know I don’t, and I wouldn’t because that’s not important when I’m judging a man’s character, but lots of girls do.
As for Gwen Stefani while I don’t think you should wear makeup to get a guy, you should wear it for YOU! But I think what she’s trying to say is it’s just part of making her feel pretty and flirty and her hubby probably appreciates that. It’s not that you should wear makeup to get a guy, but you might like to wear a pretty dress or curl your hair so that maybe that one day you’ll get their attention. I think a girl trying to impress a guy that way isn’t bad. It’s like a guy getting you flowers, he’s not normally that romantic but he’s making an effort.
Oh shoot, I’d divource him.
Well, maybe not. But at least have a deep talk with him.
Hi, I want to share my BFF’s story. We were talking today about appearence and how much importance we give to it. She told me that before she met her now Boyfriend, she cared very much about her appearance, having makeup, and have straight hair. But now that she is with her boyfriend, her appeareance is not the MOST IMPORTANT thing in her day to do. She just puts on some basic (rocker) makeup and the hair is au natural, whatever it is (with frizz,2nd day hair, or just naturally curly) and today her hair was kind of frizzy. She told me that her BF did have something in the matter of it, because he would always say how beautyful she is even with crazy wet hair and without makeup. Also today she was going to see him because they are not in the same school. And she was not asking how she looked, she just asked where he was, and yes, she continued having frizzy hair. But I think that’s love, when someone is just perfect to you does not matter how them look. and yes, that special person DO influence.