Being in a relationship is great – but guess what? Being single is just as great. We swear! There are pro’s and con’s to being single and to being attached, just like there is with anything else. And while it can be awesome to have a boyfriend on your arm, it can also be awesome to be totally free to do your own thing, whenever you want.
Sometimes it feels like I’m always hearing single girls complaining about being single. Ladies, there’s no need for that! So when I found a girl in our message boards who explained the best things about being single, I knew I had to share it with you. Read what she has to say, and once you do, I guarantee you’ll be embracing and loving your single lifestyle.
If I can just take a moment to get on my soapbox… No offense to any of the ladies on here, but it kind of annoys me to read so many comments about how some girls are basing their entire livelihood on the fact that they don’t have or can’t get a boyfriend.
To me, that sets womanhood back a couple of centuries at least.
Now, I was also like that once. I felt like a loser and a nobody because guys wouldn’t ask me out (and the ones who DID ask me out were total freaks). It made me feel unwanted and unattractive, like there was something wrong with me.
In high school, I felt left out because all of the other girls seemed to have boyfriends. And what REALLY annoyed me was the fact that these girls weren’t necessarily pretty, or smart, or funny, or interesting… but they all still seemed to have something that I didn’t have, and that bugged the crap out of me. I made it through four years of high school and never once went out on a date.
Now here I am: 21 years old, still single, senior in college, majoring in criminal justice with a good chance of getting into a good law school. I’ve never had a boyfriend and I couldn’t be happier.
Long story short, I had to basically figure out for myself that my self-esteem shouldn’t be based on how other people see me or don’t see me. It’s just not fair. Why should I sit around hating my life just because I don’t have a boyfriend? Why should I expect someone to come into my life and make me feel good when I can’t even do that myself? Truth be told, it’s just plain sad.
And I absolutely take offense to the way the media always portrays single people as pathetic and lonely.
My point is this, ladies: believe it or not, your life doesn’t stop just because you’re the only one in your circle who doesn’t have someone to suck face with on a regular basis. Before you brainwash yourself into thinking that not having a boyfriend (or girlfriend) automatically means you’ll be single for the rest of your life, try this: Have Your Own Life!!
Seriously, why not spend time with family? Or go out and make some friends. Take up a hobby, put your energy into school and/or work. Engage in something that makes YOU happy and stop waiting around for someone else to do it for you. While you’re out having fun, you just might… TA-DA! Meet someone who is interested in you.
But please, DON’T turn into that desperate soul who treats being single like a prison sentence. Part of life is trying to figure out who YOU are and what YOU’RE all about. If you feel like you’re lonely, it’s because you’re telling yourself that you’re lonely. And wanting to be in a relationship just to say you’re in a relationship is NOT a good idea.
So what I’m basically saying is this, ladies: the purpose of life is to be happy and if you can’t be happy on your own, then how can you expect someone else to do the job for you? So don’t sit around waiting for someone to come into your world and make you “see the light”. Just go out and find it yourself!
We couldn’t have said it better ourselves! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single – just like there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being in a relationship.
Do you agree with this girl? What’s your favorite thing about being single? Have you ever had a boyfriend? Tell us about it in the comments!