Raise your hand if you ever had a bad break up…
One minute we find the love of our lives. The next minute homeboy is walking away with someone else. The world is not all bubbles and cake, Sugar!
It HURTS when someone we love lies, cheats on us, betrays us or finds another fun way to stomp on our feelings. It’s a “break up” because the “we” of us is hacked in half. They call it
a “broken heart” because we feel split open. We just want the pain to stop.
We cry out our misery to sad songs, in weepy poems, to our BFFs and the lady at the bus stop.
Then, the devil on your shoulder says, “You know what? We could totally get revenge on this
STOP! Here’s why revenge is not your best option…
5. You’re better than that!
Everyone does the best they can at the moment. Now you’re all, “If that’s his best I’d hate to see
his worst.” Just because some dude is a slimeball doesn’t mean that you have to get slimy with
him. At some point you chose that slimeball for yourself. Instead of focusing on revenge ask yourself, “How can I make better choices in the future?”
4. Karma aka The Golden Rule.
Ever heard the saying “what goes around comes around?” That’s karma. There’s no need to
make someone pay. Karma kinda evens the world out. You may be thinking, but karma takes
too long and I wanna see them suffer. Before you shout, “Look karma, you forgot someone,” move forward. Whatever your beliefs, let the universe handle it. Treat folks like you want to be treated.
3. Your health.
It is a truth universally acknowledged that if you’re a human being dating other human beings,
sooner or later someone is going to screw you over. (And not always in a good way! lol)
Plotting revenge might feel like temporary relief from crying on the kitchen floor. However, all
that negative energy surging through your body is AWFUL for your health. Payback can weaken
your immune system, raise your heart rate and cause stressful breakouts. Bitterness ain’t cute.
2. You don’t have TIME.
Okay, between planning an outfit for next weekend’s party, catching up on PLL, and beating your little brother (again) at World of Warcraft, when the hell do you think you have time to plot some elaborate revenge scheme?! Whether you know it or not, you’ve got WAY better ways to spend your time than on this chump. Hasn’t he already wasted enough of your time as it is?
1. Living well is the best revenge.
Don’t be mad that it’s over. Be glad that it happened. Grieve the loss of the relationship and
move on. Channel the love you had for the other person into more sweet, juicy love for yourself. Then, keep jamming as the bright, shiny light you are. As P!nk would say, “So what! You’re still a rock star.” Rock on.
Okay, now it’s time to be super honest. Have you ever plotted revenge on an ex? Tell me in the comments!