I was in the car with my best guy friend, and the topic of relationships came up. I told him about the guy I had just started seeing, he said he thought the dude seemed cool, and then I asked about my friend’s girlfriend.
He’d been dating her for about five months, and although he said he really liked her, he thought he liked her more as a friend than anything else. “But . . . she’s said she loves you, right?,” I asked. “Yes,” he said. That’s the problem. I don’t think it’s fair to her to keep things going since I don’t feel the same way, so I should break it off.” Seemed rational–but since everyone knows breaking up is tricky, I had to ask how he was going to handle it. (She was a friend of mine, too, and I wanted to make sure he wasn’t going to be a jerk!)
“Oh, well, obviously I’ll just be honest,” he said. “You know, I’ll tell her that I just know I’d never ever be able to love her. You know? Because it’s impossible for me to love her. And that’ll be it!”
WOAH. Right?! Honesty is important, but that just seemed plain cruel. I suggested that maybe he tone it down a little and say something more along the lines of her feelings being stronger than his. He took my advice and to this day they’re still friends. Somehow I don’t think that’d be the case if he’d gone with his original plan!
What’s the worst thing you’ve heard a guy say when he broke up with a girl? Tell me in the comments!