How Do You Deal With A Significant Other Who’s In The Military?

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Babygrlk100 said:

My boyfriend just told me that he’s thinking about joining the Air Force Active Duty. At first, the plan was for him to do the reserves so that he wouldn’t be gone a lot. But now his mom is saying that he won’t be able to support us just by being in the reserves, so he wants to be on active duty so that we have more money.

I’m so scared. I’m going to be there for him regardless, but thinking about being without him for months at a time just kills me. Are there any girlfriends or wives of anyone in the military here? How do you get through it?

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  • Natty

    Hi there,
    I’m Natty, I’m 21 years old. My boyfriend, who is 20 years old, and I started to go out for just two months before he left to the Air force, i believe he is in basic training know. He left 19 days ago and I am missing him like crazy. These past two weeks and so, have been really depressing and lonely w/o him by my side. worse thing is that I haven’t hear from him at all, I don’t know how allowable he is with cell phones and mailing but I am thinking he might me busy enough end so, that’s the reason he hasn’t written or called me. I couple days ago, his sister gave me his address, so I will send him a letter tomorrow but i am nervous. I hope he can get back to me or at least give me a signal that he hasn’t forgotten me, because i have him in my mind and heart in every minute of my day. I guess i just need to be patient and bring the courage up in order to become a prepare women in society that will impress him, when he gets back.

    I would really appreciate any advice or encouragement of anyone under similar circumstances.
    Best,
    Natty

  • Autumn

    Hey my name is autumn. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8 months and we ment online. We have never met each other and I really would love to go to his graduation, but I don’t know his family at all and I don’t know anything about the army base he is on. My boyfriend left on June 16 2014. He is in basic training right now and I miss him like crazy. I am a army girlfriend through and through. Yes it is hard, but if you love him enough you can get through it. Just know he is missing you as much as you are missing him. If you can write to him write as much as possible, but sometimes he might not be able to contact you. I know how that goes. I have not got any letters from my boyfriend since he has been gone. It is hard to be with out your boyfriend for 2 months.. but I know it will get better when I see him next. What I do to pass the time is be with friends and hang out with people in real life. Try and do things to help you forget he is gone for a little while. Something to pass the time. It is not always easy, but if you have a strong will power that most women have you will be just fine! Good luck

    • Alejandra

      I have similar situation and he is going for basic training now.. I’m scared :/

      • Eva

        Hi Alejandra
        I’m in same position :/ my boyfriend has left for basic training four weeks ago and I miss him terribly… I send him very long texts and he replies with one line… I send letters to him but none of them has ever been answered, still I know I love him and the occasional long messages I receive show me that all the waiting is worth it.
        It’s very important you look after yourself too, I took up ballet classes and try to keep myself occupied. Meeting friends is also very helpful to me.But still It is hard… I hope I could help you. I wish you all the best!

        • jenn

          Hello my boyfriend and I have been together for four years and we also met online and we also met after he got home from Iraq it is hard when they are gone I deal.with him being gone for weeks on end to do.training and now there is talk about another deployment next year and im not ready for that even though there are so many of us loved ones out there all over the country us military wives/girlfriends have to stick together. What helps me is being with family and friends and I also want to join a military support group