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Babygrlk100 said:
My boyfriend just told me that he’s thinking about joining the Air Force Active Duty. At first, the plan was for him to do the reserves so that he wouldn’t be gone a lot. But now his mom is saying that he won’t be able to support us just by being in the reserves, so he wants to be on active duty so that we have more money.
I’m so scared. I’m going to be there for him regardless, but thinking about being without him for months at a time just kills me. Are there any girlfriends or wives of anyone in the military here? How do you get through it?
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My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for three years. He went straight after high school while I was left in college for forensic science (I’m in graduate school now). He’s still in Afghanistan and long-distance relationships are in no question, extremely hard! I’ve only seen him five times (about a week at a time) in person after he was deployed. My advice would be to call, video chat, and most definitely write as much letters as you possibly can! My boyfriend will be back in May and I have never been more excited! But anyway, good luck with your relationship
Distance makes the heart grow fonder 
I’ve had friends go to basic (Air Force and Marines) and my boyfriend is Army as well. Although he does ROTC, he’ll still have to go to a month long basic training two summers from now. There is no easy way of coping with someone leaving for basic training, just know that he’ll still be the same person he was when he left. Write to him as often as you can, letters to them are like Christmas. It makes them know they’re not forgotten about and he’ll write back when he can. Typically they only have time once a week to be able to write. He’ll call you when he can, it depends on how his flight does that week. They’ll take away things like that if they mess up or don’t get along. As for after basic, it depends on what his career is. Since he’s AF, there is a good possibility that he’ll stay stateside but it just depends on what their demand is. He has to go where they tell him to go.
My boyfriend is coming to see me in 9 days. We have never once seen each other in our entire five month relationship. He’ll be staying on and off at my house for two weeks, then at a friend’s the remainding time until Jan. 20. Then he has to go back 750 miles away. Shortly after, he’s going into basic. I’m dreading saying goodbye. I’ll be focusing more on schoolwork and spend much more time with friends and family. But I know it’ll always be on my mind. I was offered a job and may take it for the money and to keep busy. It’s good to know it does get easier, even if it hasn’t started yet. He’s 18 and I’m 16. I know it’ll be the most difficult and rewarding thing. Good luck.
I’m have the same problem, only our relationship is long distance, so it kinda makes everything worse. :’( If anyone has any suggestions on how to cope, I’d be very thankful.
I’m in the same predicament as well. I’m placed in a Delayed Enlistment program for the Air Force, and I had met my boyfriend soon after. I told him about the USAF when we met, but now that we’re dating, it’s hitting him hard, and I ship out next year. I just want him to have reassurance that I will still feel the same, even though I am far away, and we’ll see each other again, but honestly I will miss seeing him as much as I’d like.
My boyfriend and my bestfriend are both in the army and both left for basic training around the same time this summer so I can share some of the feelings you’re having. They’ve both been gone for about 3 months now. It sucks! The worst part of the whole ordeal is the waiting. Often the military can be unpredictable, and often times you’re never quite sure when to expect a phone call or when you’ll be getting a letter. When you do receive (sp) letters and calls it helps, and it does get easier to cope with over time. Just keep yourself busy and the time will pass quickly! Stay strong and have faith in your relationship! It will all be worth the waiting in the end! I’ll be praying for you! (:
Thank u so much this made me feel better
& I’m sorry ur bf & Bestfriend left at the same time.
Yes like all the ladie say having a strong relationship my husband burly joined. the army this April so he Burly has 5months n believe its ready hard u just need to support him and get ur self busy with school n work then later when his done with Basic Training hell call u Every dax stay strong
Thanks I didn’t know exactly what to expect after basic training.