I was just wondering… is it normal for my parents to have sex? The other day, I went into my parents’ drawer to get my watch, and I found a 12-pack of condoms. To top that off, last summer, I had a nightmare and went to sleep in my mom’s bed because I got freaked out. Once I was in her bed, I put my hand under the pillow and there was a condom. I got up and left, totally weirded out. Is this normal?
While it may be totally weird and creepy and icky to think about, the truth is is that it’s perfectly normal for your parents to have sex. In fact, it’s probably actually a good thing that they’re getting busy with each other – it most likely means that their relationship is healthy and, well, passionate. Good news! Gross news, but still good.
Here’s the thing: for most relationships, sex is a great way to stay intimate and to keep a marriage exciting. When parents hook up, that most likely means they’re still attracted to each other and they still love each other. I know that it sometimes seems like sexy times is something that only happens to younger people, but that’s totally not true. Sex is a completely normal part of any relationship, no matter how old you are. Think about it this way: if your parents weren’t getting frisky in the bedroom, you never would have been born!
Try to put your condom discoveries behind you. If you’d rather not be reminded of your parents’ sex life, try to stay out of their bedroom as much as possible. As weird as it may be for you, your parents do have a right to have a little privacy behind closed doors.
Yes, it’s super icky to know stuff about your parents sex life. No one wants to think about their parents getting it on, so I totally don’t blame you for feeling freaked out here. But the bottom line is that you shouldn’t feel too weird about this. Your parents aren’t doing anything wrong here – they’re just enjoying themselves! Just try your hardest not to think about it, and you should be good.
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