Let’s get one thing straight, ladies: never ever fight over text.
Here’s just one example why: In the latest chapter of Kristen Stewart Screwing Up the Best Thing She’ll Ever Have, I hear that she and brokenhearted boyfriend Robert Pattinson are only communicating via “heated” texts in the wake of her cheating scandal. I hate confrontation as much as the next girl but from my experience, feuding over SMS is a super bad idea. Check out these 10 reasons why you’d better off talking it out instead.
1. Your Tone Can Be Misinterpreted
What’s LOL to a guy can easily seem WTF to a girl. They tend to communicate in blunt, straightforward language that can seem harsh and insensitive when you can't see the look on their face. To avoid making a stressful fight even worse, make sure you hash things out using something other than your thumbs.
2. Do You Even Know It’s Him on the Other End?
Confession: in the middle of one particularly horrendous brawl with my ex-BF, I let my friend take over the text war because I was just too overwhelmed. But my BF figured out it wasn’t me writing and was HORRIFIED that I’d tell people our business. So much fail.
3. No One is Focused
It irks me to think that while I’m pouring my guts, he could be Googling Kate Upton. Chances are I’m doing something similar myself (minus the Kate Upton part) which isn’t good for anyone since neither of us is focused on resolving the issue.
4. Waiting for a Reply is AGONY
The worst: when you’re on pins and needles waiting for your boy to write back and your phone chimes but it’s your friend or mom instead. Torture! In a fight, boys take an especially long time to answer because, let’s face it, they’re not as great at communicating as we are.
5. He Could Show Everyone
So could you, for that matter, and no one wants to think about his or her private messages being shown around. If you’re prone to saying things you regret, do yourself a favor and avoid having a visual record of it!
6. …Or Just Stop Replying
Guys don’t have a very high tolerance for angry girls. So there’s a good chance that he’ll get exasperated and just shut down before the issue is resolved. And then—surprise surprise!—you will want to pull your hair out. And his too.
7. Two Words: Auto Correct
My phone has a charming habit of correcting “XOXO” to “cocks.” You can probably fill in the rest of the story. My auto correct does.
8. You Don’t Want a Record of Your Fight
Just last week I got INTO IT with my ex over SMS and all weekend I poked at the wound by reading and re-reading his insanely awful messages to me. Every time I opened them my blood would boil and it’d relive the fight all over again. Why whyyyyy?!
9. There’s Never Enough Room!
Shocker: I’m a blabbermouth and can’t possibly edit down my thoughts to fit into a tiny little text so I end up writing in this weirdo shorthand that makes me seem like I’m texting from inside a hostage situation. If you want to express yourself fully and really get things off your chest, bite the bullet and pick up the phone.
10. The Fight Will Last a Lot Longer
Remember that whole “waiting for a reply sucks” part? Well it’s not just the anxiety that makes it so awful, it’s also because it draws out your spat even longer. What could have been a five minute convo is suddenly a 45 minute text exchange. Why suffer longer than you have to? Kristen and Rob might have moved on from the cheating fiasco if they'd just talk face to face!
Have you ever had a fight over text message? What do you think is the worst kind of bad texting? Tell us everything in the comments!