From The Message Boards: How Do You Really Feel About Giving Oral Sex?

Girls, this is a not-so-serious question that we’re still dying to know the answer to: how do you really feel about giving a blow job? Or, in simpler terms, blowjobs? We saw this discussion going on in our message boards (our boards are seriously so much fun!) and we knew we had to get in on it.

So, what do you really think about giving a dude oral sex? Are you a fan of it, or do you think it’s degrading? Every girl has a different opinion, and there’s really no right way to think about it. Check out what these ladies had to say and then fill us in on your thoughts in the comments.

ZomNomNom wrote:
I’m just wondering about everyone’s views on blowjobs!

How many of you girls give them? Why or why not? Do you enjoy it? What do you do when he’s done?

I personally don’t like the idea of giving a blowjob. It always struck me as degrading. However, my boyfriend goes down on me and I love it, and it feels almost selfish not to return the favor. Do any of you feel that way?

turtleshelll said:
I guess if your boyfriend doesn’t mind, then it’s not a big deal, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable not returning the favor. I think it can be degrading, but only because society has placed men and women in a constant power struggle. Think about it, is it degrading for him when he goes down on you? Or is it simply an act of love?

Personally I love giving blowjobs, I’m interacting with such a vulnerable part of his body in a very intimate way. Knowing that and seeing the way he enjoys it turns me on, in the same way I imagine it turns him on when he’s going down on me.

LotusFlower182 said:
I give them occasionally. I don’t LOVE giving them, but then again I don’t HATE them. But before I started doing it, I did feel like they were extremely degrading.

Luckily, I’m involved with someone that doesn’t just NEED a blowjob every time we have sex. He can go down on me and not expect a thing in return unlike guys I’ve been with in the past. Some guys aren’t too much into that. To be honest, I don’t enjoy giving oral sex. It’s more pleasure for him, I feel.

Here’s the thing with giving oral sex: if you enjoy doing it to your man, go for it! If it makes you happy and you’re having a good time, there’s nothing wrong with that, and we’re not judging any girl who says she’s into it.

However, if you don’t like giving oral sex and you’re not comfortable with it, then don’t do it. Simple as that. You should never feel like you have to perform oral sex on someone if you find it degrading or you feel uncomfortable participating in it. Don’t do something that isn’t pleasurable for you just to please a guy – that’s not how a healthy sexual relationship works.

How do you feel about giving oral sex? Do you ever find it degrading? Tell us in the comments.

 

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  • Fred

    Every woman I have been with (2 wives and several girlfriends) found giving head a total turn-on. They loved it. One girlfriend would have several orgasms while doing it without even touching herself. I am not kidding. My 2nd wife liked doing it while I was driving our car on road trips or coming back from the beach. She liked the danger aspect of doing it in public like that and it was very exciting for me to build toward orgasm while driving and then let go into her.

    But of course guys should also enjoy using their tongues to return the favor. Women love receiving oral, it is delicate and delicious and it is easier for them to orgasm that way than with ordinary sex because the attention is on the important part, the clitoris.

  • theenlightenedone

    This article does show how some girls can be so self centered and selfish. ZOMNOMNOM is thoroughly selfish to enjoy being eaten out but quite openly says it is degrading for her to suck her guy.
    I just think she is extremely wrong in the way she thinks and needs to be more giving. There is nothing degrading about oral sex. You either enjoy it or not but putting a VALUE on it ( by calling it degrading) is so WRONG.
    ZomNomNom you are a selfish bitch and an embarrassment to us girls.
    Even if you think it plz dont go saying things like that. Sex is enjoyable, fun, sensual and fulfilling. Please dont take that away by poisoning other girls minds. You seem to be from the dark ages and you need to come out from your “selfish protected” world and be more warm, accepting and giving.

  • mariyon

    Girls do bj’s just because they think it’s needed to keep their man. Porn brainwashed all the women around the world to do shit like this and men expect them to do it.
    Really, like someone here already said: these girls might give bj’s but their men can still cheat on them. It’s NOT a garantee to a relationship.
    Real love is not about sacrifice at all. Why would you give up your morals for your spouse? If it’s your true love, there is no need to give up your morals …

    do what you want, DON’T do want you don’t want.

    Suck it up, men, women are no toy’s to play with. If a relation is based on a girl sucking your cock or not, your doing it wrong.

    U mad?

    • BERYL

      It’s a sad day in humankind that we have gotten to the point where we threaten women and tell them that they should give their men blowjobs in order to keep him from cheating. What is even more sad, is that some females actually allow themelves to be brainwashed and buy into that. Women then have to bow down and and suck on his nasty thing while it hurts their mouths. Why would you do this? These women can never really be sure where these men’s things have been. No matter how much you suck on him, he still has a wandering eye and he will cheat, because we have set it up and allowed men to cheat. They know that you gullible foolish women will just forgive them and take them back and start all over again on the sucking. Foolish, foolish women.
      It has now been proven that men really are selfish and evil and women really are weak and too scared to satand up for themselves. I don’t need a man for all that trouble. It is not worth all that you people say we have to do to keep them. I don’t care if they do cheat.

    • Indra Jeet

      I think you are right. Even in kamasutra blow job was done mostly by courtesan. You know what I mean a prostitute. The bellow the belt area genital area is so full of bacteria. Even std can be caught. Even if you wash these areas they are still contaminated. If a tells a girl She has to suck his dick is an asshole. Doesn’t respect her or love her. Thinks woman are objects. The mouth which was made by divine god for eating or taking his name is used for swallowing cum what the hell?

    • First_Blood

      Nope not mad. Almost all of them do it willingly. Any woman worth having is one that will do anything to please their partner, and the same goes for the male. And BJ’s are one thing guy’s almost unanimously expect. So the ones that don’t wanna do it better get with the program or either be single or kicked around to multiple partners. What’s to be mad about? I think maybe you’re projecting because you don’t like to do it ya poor feminist. Lol.

  • Olivia

    I recently gave myforst blowjob about a month ago… Really, I wasn’t sure how I would feel about it… Like another girl said, “He pees out of that thing!” But then I fou d my soulmate, and my whole view changed. Blowjobs aren’t about getting off, they’re about bonding and being intimate with each other. It doesn’t taste like anything; it’s just skin, so it’s really not gross. The only thing that coulld make it really disgusting is if he doesn’t at least trkm the hair! But anyway blowjobs are a chance for you twoto get intimate and show each other howmuch you love andrespect one another. If the love isn’t there, THAT’S when blowjobs become degrading. Just relax andenjoy uourself. Oh and also remember: itdoesn’t have to lead to sexand he doesn’t have to come! It’d about having fum, NOT finishing. 🙂
    P.S. Sorry for any typing errors, my phone’s keypad is touchy… >:s

  • Joy

    Maybe im weird but I do not mind giving blow jobs at all. I’ll wake my boyfriend up in the morning or late at night when im in the mood and he’s sleeping by giving him a blow job. I love seeing how he reacts and i love the responses he gives me. He is always pleasuring me whether by eating me out or fingering me and thats not giving him any pleasure except to watch me get excited so why not give the favor back and watch him get excited. I love it. I like knowing that I know how to turn him on(:

    • Iluvephelasheo

      I agree to what Joy says. OMG gurls so over react. Wat has giving blowjobs got to do with love and loyalty?? Giving and receiving blow jobs is about enjoying sex and pleasuring your partner. It has nothing to do with cheating or not cheating. Stop being such drama queens. OMG you gurls are so embarrasing.
      I agree I was so anxious when I gave my first blow job. I didnt know what to expect. The guy I lost my virginity to was a lot older and he held my head and made me open my mouth and got me to suck him. He got really really hard and I thought I was hurting him. He then started going down on me and this freaked me out even more but I thoroughly enjoyed it. I was so scared and really felt weird because it was my first time ever. I was 12. It all semed to last forever and it went on and on but he got me so turned on I just went with it and it was just such an awesome experience.
      I think there is nothing wrong with giving a guy a blow job. It can be fun provided you just relax and dont freak out

    • culiro

      Best answer so far! I’ve been the person who my.boyfriend has to ask me to go down on him and I debate it everytime but I like the idea to doing it when he doesn’t ask for it . thanks 🙂

  • sally

    it’s a lot easier for me when i’m tied up and he does all the work. but more gagging.

  • Annie

    Although I’ve only really done it a few times, I would say that seeing my significant other’s reaction to it is always worth the common messiness… I feel like once I’ve improved my technique, I will enjoy it even more for that reason. The question I have is, do girls really enjoy when a man goes down on them? Every time it’s happened to me, I’ve felt little to no pleasure and I am positive that he wasn’t “missing the spot” if you know what I mean 😉 I was just curious if it’s normal for some girls to just not get the same enjoyment out of it?

  • Jackie

    I dated what I thought was a patient, kind gentleman for 3 weeks and then we were intimate. He then told me I wasn’t spending enough time on pleasuring him with a blow job. This, even though he had been experiencing that plus many other sorts of stimulation and had received orgasm. It made me sick that he was telling me that I hadn’t spent enough time pleasuring him. It was early in the relationship and I felt sick about his behaviour since the rest of our realtionship was moving along nicely. He said he was a PROUD man and that I wasn’t satisfying him properly. I had to leave. I told him he should be hiring someone instead.

  • babilaci

    The first time my Mistress made me suck another man off after she had
    made love to him. I felt humiliated but when he finally unloaded in
    my throat I was honored and when she held my head down it made me
    so happy to please Mistress. I honestly can not get enough cum

  • KITKAT

    I guess i’m with most girls on this one i do like receiving but i do not like to give it on rare occasions when the mood strikes me i do feel like doing it and i just do it with out over thinking it i find it makes it more enjoyable for the both of us.

  • Kendal

    Honestly, I really enjoy doing it. My boyfriend loves it, and I love knowing I’m making him feel good. I don’t enjoy receiving oral, though. It makes me feel sooo self conscious and I just hate it. I honestly LOVE giving blowjobs, and I love when I know I’m improving.

    (I’ve only been with one guy, and he’s the only guy I’ve gone down on. He’s about average, and I have a very limited gag reflex, so I guess that makes it easier for me.)

  • Kay

    I was really hesitant to give my boyfriend a blow job for the first time, simply because I felt very inexperience and didn’t know what to do. He had gone down on me once before and I really wanted to return the favor but it took me a few more months before I was ready to try it. Initially I was afraid it would be gross but honestly its not bad at all. That being said you should make sure that you are ready and not just doing it because he’s pressuring you to.

  • Britt_Rowe

    I have never given a blow job. I just recently started having sex with my bf and I have only given him hand jobs. TO be honest, if I don’t have to give him a blow job, that would be awesome. To me, it sounds really gross and to me its like “He pees out of that thing and I’m supposed to suck on it?” Ew. No thanks. But i guess eventually, I will have to try it, just to see. But otherwise I am really not comfortable with it.

  • Hazel

    it’s just another form of having sex.. i mean why not what one wont do another one will !!!

  • Esha

    BLOW JOBS ?? I Hate Them . I Feel Like Dude Your Penis Has Been In Places That My Mouth Shouldnt Be So Why Put My Mouth On That THING . My Ex Boyfriend Went Down On Me And Didnt expect Me to Do a Thing THANK GOD , But I Dont Have Anything Against People Who Give Them But I’ll NEVER do That .

  • Marie

    The idea of oral sex grosses me out ALOT. I’m abstinent(until marriage) and even the idea of performing oral sex even when i’m married will be a touchy and uncomfortable subject to me. it seems so passive/demeaning for ME to do that. i’m only speaking for myself, and my own comfort level.

  • alinabee316

    I’m in the middle with blowjobs. It’s great to receive but a pain to give. The guys want you to go all deep-throat but ewww, I don’t want to gag!

    • ashley

      trust me you’ll get used to it 😉

  • caniloveu

    gross 😮 no i would never do that never never never but that might be cuz im a virgin for life….

  • Kate

    I gave my first one a couple weeks ago and a train of thoughts came threw my brain! I didn’t understand how the guy enjoyed it so much. I wanted it to be over sooo bad! I wasn’t enjoying myself. I really don’t want to give one again, only because they bore me…

    • caz

      same here! i hate it and i gag loads! ewww i find it disgusting and awkward cuz i dont know if he likes it or not. i get bored and give up if he dont cum quickly 😉 i love it when guys go down on me tho 😉

  • Tori.gurl

    well personally i love to give them! blow jobs well when you give them ur guy is completely venerable and when you look in his eyes while ur doing this its like … wow you’re sharing something wonderful though i wouldn’t give it if he wont (i am a virgin) though i will do this its only degrading if he expects u to do it like “Ok babe lets do it! Ready Set Suck!” my 1st response “F*ck no!” and to leave but if were having a intimate moment (and honestly i wont go all the way for A LONG time) i will go down on him but only to the guy i love nobody else =)