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Girls, this is a not-so-serious question that we’re still dying to know the answer to: how do you really feel about giving a blow job? Or, in simpler terms, blowjobs? We saw this discussion going on in our message boards (our boards are seriously so much fun!) and we knew we had to get in on it.
So, what do you really think about giving a dude oral sex? Are you a fan of it, or do you think it’s degrading? Every girl has a different opinion, and there’s really no right way to think about it. Check out what these ladies had to say and then fill us in on your thoughts in the comments.
ZomNomNom wrote:
I’m just wondering about everyone’s views on blowjobs!
How many of you girls give them? Why or why not? Do you enjoy it? What do you do when he’s done?
I personally don’t like the idea of giving a blowjob. It always struck me as degrading. However, my boyfriend goes down on me and I love it, and it feels almost selfish not to return the favor. Do any of you feel that way?
turtleshelll said:
I guess if your boyfriend doesn’t mind, then it’s not a big deal, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable not returning the favor. I think it can be degrading, but only because society has placed men and women in a constant power struggle. Think about it, is it degrading for him when he goes down on you? Or is it simply an act of love?
Personally I love giving blowjobs, I’m interacting with such a vulnerable part of his body in a very intimate way. Knowing that and seeing the way he enjoys it turns me on, in the same way I imagine it turns him on when he’s going down on me.
LotusFlower182 said:
I give them occasionally. I don’t LOVE giving them, but then again I don’t HATE them. But before I started doing it, I did feel like they were extremely degrading.
Luckily, I’m involved with someone that doesn’t just NEED a blowjob every time we have sex. He can go down on me and not expect a thing in return unlike guys I’ve been with in the past. Some guys aren’t too much into that. To be honest, I don’t enjoy giving oral sex. It’s more pleasure for him, I feel.
Here’s the thing with giving oral sex: if you enjoy doing it to your man, go for it! If it makes you happy and you’re having a good time, there’s nothing wrong with that, and we’re not judging any girl who says she’s into it.
However, if you don’t like giving oral sex and you’re not comfortable with it, then don’t do it. Simple as that. You should never feel like you have to perform oral sex on someone if you find it degrading or you feel uncomfortable participating in it. Don’t do something that isn’t pleasurable for you just to please a guy – that’s not how a healthy sexual relationship works.
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giving oral isnt that bad like, idk i wouldnt do it just cus i have to really love my boyfriend and stuff and you have to have a boyfriend who will respect your wishes if you dont want to
I honestly wont give a guy a blow job, idk what is I just dont like it.. I love receiving stuff but wont give.. But to be honest when I ask my bf if I can just to try, he dont like it.. I guess its good for me? My friends say its fun but I wouldn’t know..
Iv been with the same guy for 3 years, & iv lost my virginity to him, & im hoping some day he’ll let me!
I do not enjoy giving bj’s at all. Although, its kind of worth it when you see your boy breath heavy and know that he truly enjoyed it. Its a way of showing your love. That you’d do anything to please. Usually, if he isnt a jerk, he’ll do it back.
I am completely okay with giving blowjobs as long as I am in a relationship and really care about the person I am with because I enjoy making that person happy. However, I don’t like the fact that I feel as though girls are kind of expected to give blowjobs while guys are not expected to eat a girl out.
Maybe its just the people I know but I’ve never heard anyone in my social circle say anything negative about a girl giving a guy a blowjob but I have heard some of my guyfriends say that a guy is whipped if he goes down on a girl. I think that is unfair for both parties.
Although I don’t really mind not getting anything in return (because that’s not what it is about), I do mind that there is a stigma about going down on a girl.
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it’s really helpful,thanks very much.
I, personally, have never given one (or had any sexual relations whatsoever), but I wouldn’t think of them as degrading. Porn portrays sex astoundingly different then what really goes on. Blowjobs in porn are (i imagine) much, much different than blowjobs in real life. As long as you’re comfortable with it, and he isn’t selfish about it, then everything’s peachy (right?)
i have a general rule. If you let a guy do anything to you then you should do the guy equivalent preferably within a month…If you want to be equals in a relationship you need to equally give and recieve
The first time my boyfriend ever brought up blow jobs to me, I immediately thought about how awful and degrading it looked in porn.. but once I was in the moment and I just thought about trying it to see how it would be, I didn’t feel like it was degrading at all, in fact I enjoyed it. And when he returned the favor and ate me out, It was just as amazing.
when i start, i feel like its a drag and i just wanna get it over with. but afterwards, when hes all happy and hugs me tight and kisses my forehead, i feel happy about making him happy haha
as for returning the favor, it kinda bugs me that he stopped going down on me a few months ago.. but i never came from it so i dont miss it actually.
I think oral sex is in a lot of ways more intimate than just plain sex. In fact I didn’t go down on my boyfriend until we had sex. While head is somewhat awkward and unappealing, I still think its important in a sexual relationship. I mean if he’s pleasing you, it’s really only fair to return the favor. And as for it being degrading, women’s suffrage is over! If guys can do it with dignity so can we. But no one should ever be pressured to do something they’re not comfortable with, girl or boy.
I love giving them to my guy!
It’s actually fun to me, because i know whatever I’m doing to it, he’s enjoying it.
And when you make eye contact with while doing it, you can really connect with your guy,
If you really like the person, its doesn’t feel regarding at all.
cause you know he’ll return the favor and you’re giving him a good time.
Giving and receiving is pleasurable. I’m a pleaser so I like giving head, but there are times when nothing is better than receiving. Just do what is comfortable and enjoyable.
So, it’s degrading for a girl to give a guy oral, but it’s not for a guy to give a girl oral…?
WHAT?!!! Where is the logic in that?!
I personally don’t mind blowjobs. I like seeing that my boyfriend is happy and I can make him feel that way. I admit, sometimes they’re hard to do and I get confused and all, or my mouth is too dry, or I’m just tired when he’s in a “hot to trot” mood, but in the end, I don’t mind giving them.
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Honestly, I hate it and think it’s pretty gross. That being said, I will do it for a man I love, but as an act of love and not something degrading. It’s something I’ll initiate myself, because something about a guy actually asking for one makes me really really NOT want to give one.
I’m not a girl who enjoys recieving oral sex, so I don’t really feel the need to “return the favor” much. But if I can tell my guy is really turned on, and I don’t particularly want to have sex (being a virgin and wanting to stay that way a while), I’ll give a blowjob. It makes me feel like I’m being a good girlfriend, and as much as it’s grody to give one, I do like pleasing the man I love.
i dont know, i have never given a blowjob i would love to though just to see what its like. dose it taste of anything??
On a clean guy: It’s salty (that’s the semen), and how salty depends on the guy and what he eats.
I love giving my boyfriend a blowie!
He’s the only sexual partner that i’ve ever given one too though, you have to be picky about those kinds of things.
Blow jobs usually are looked down on by most of my girlfriends they find them icky or they just don’t like doing it, but I actually love giving one.
It makes me feel powerful, and in control. I love the amount of pleasure he gets from it. It makes me feel sexy, and confident because i’m good at it. I get to control the speed, pressure and motions, while he lays there completely vulnerable. It’s fun for us because we both enjoy it, and it’s a very personal experience. Oral sex is very intimate and it’s very personal , because i think that letting someone, down near your privates with their faces requires a lot of trust, so it’s even better with someone you love. We’ve been together for 3 years, and it just keeps getting better.
Also, when i finish most of the time i just swallow. unless it’s a lot, then i scamper to the bathroom and spit it out into some tissue and flush it.