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Here’s how to make sure that your friends don’t BREAK UP with YOU over your matchmaking skills:
1. DO consider who she likes (not who you want her to like!)
We all have an idea of the Prince or Princess Charming that we think is good enough for our best friends. However, your idea of “the one” is probably totally different than hers. You may think buff, dirty blonde surfers are IT, but she loves the idea of slim, smart, and handsome rappers. Go with HER ideal, not yours.
2. DO make sure that she won’t take the hook up as an insult.
There’s your lonely BFF riding solo… again. Hook up time, right? Hit the breaks, Cupid. Alone does not equal lonely. Don’t ASSUME that your friend wants to be in a relationship. A-S-K first.
3. DO give a disclaimer.
So, your BFF wants a BF and the perfect dude is open to meeting her? Cool. Be clear to both of them that if things go south you’re not to blame. Also do not continue to be a relationship middleman after the introduction.
4. DON’T set your friends up with guys that have a crush on YOU.
Confession: If I date a great guy who’s just wrong for me, I don’t want to just toss him back into the dating pool. I want to hook him up with one of my girls so he doesn’t “go to waste.” This move has big potential for an EPIC FAIL. The ONLY way this works is if the guy is not that into YOU either. (Duh!)
5. DON’T do convenience hookups.
Wouldn’t it be nice if you all dated guys in the same clique? Sure, if it happens that way–but real life is not “Gossip Girl” (even if, OMG, we wish it were. Can you imagine having all those clothes?!). Don’t set your friends up with your boyfriend’s friends just so that you can hang out. Ditto for hooking your buddies up with your family members. If your best friend dates your bro and it doesn’t work, things can go from a-mazing to awkward super-fast.
The bottom line?
Keep your friends’ interests above yours if you’re trying to hook them up. If things work out you’ve intro’d your friend to the love of her life, or the love of her fall semester, anyway!
Have you ever played matchmaker for a friend? Was it a yay or nay? Do tell! Give us the scoop in the comments below!
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Personally, I do not like it when my friends try to set me up; I am perfectly capable of finding a man on my own. I mean it is ok if one of my friends is like, “hey, come meet this new guy – you could be friends.” But, when people try and push me into a relationship it annoys me and it normally does not work out. I think that people should not interfere with other relationships unless under bad circumstances, or unless somebody asks first.